Hello.

I have been lurking for approximately a week and just thought I would introduce myself in the interest of not being rude.

You may call me Gwen (not my real name, of course).

Last week, a very dear friend of mine was diagnosed with cirrhosis.

I, of course, was deeply saddened.

Stumbling upon these forums was a blessing (to myself and countless others, no doubt), as I have learned much from the posts.

For that, I thank each of you who contribute.

Best,

Gwen

Thank you for the warm welcome and helpful information.

I didn't wish to put anyone off by hanging around and not introducing myself. 

She is really much more like family than just a friend.

The information I have received indicates that the situation is terminal.

I have never experienced the loss of a friend before, so I find myself in uncharted territory.

My concern now is for her family.

It seems as though ESLD can be a slow and painful process.

The best I could do is to offer my unconditional support, which I have done.

I am a realist, although it gives me some hope to read that some have defied the odds.

If anyone has any further advice on what to do (or not to do) to help at this time, it would be appreciated.

Again, for the comfort this forum gives to many -- my sincerest thanks.

Best,

Gwen

Hi Hep.

Your posts have indeed given me hope.

I am very glad to hear that you are living comfortably.

Unfortunately, the cirrhosis is, in fact, due to alcoholism.

She is in the end stages, as she has ascites and encephalopathy.

At this point, I do not have specifics other than what I have just shared.

It is difficult enough to see a loved one suffer from a progressive illness, but when they continue to look for love and solace in the bottom of a bottle of booze -- well, it's just downright maddening.

Maybe this will be the catalyst she needs to change her life.

I sure hope so.

This seems to be a good place, with supportive people.

I will keep you updated, if you don't mind.

It feels good to vent.

May you all continue to experience health and healing!

Best,

Gwen

Gwen, I feel that I was fortunate to have 6 yrs. of sobriety when I was diagnosed with hep C.  I went through the gamut of emotions that one experiences with a loss (in this case loss of health.)  Thanks to AA, I was able to deal with all the stages of grief very quickly, mostly by sharing what I was feeling.  I know that had I continued to drink or if I had started back again, I would not be here today.  I have been given more than one "second chance."  I feel that God still has a purpose for me here on earth, and part of that is being able to share my experience and knowledge and offer hope to others with liver disease, particularly alcoholics.

Hugs,

Connie

"Kind words are a creative force, a power that concurs in the building up of all that is good, and energy that showers blessings upon the world."

 -Lawrence G. Lovasik

Best,

Gwen