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Posted 7/7/2010 11:55 PM (GMT 0)
I will be gone next week July 12th through 15th.. taking some ladies from the adult foster care home that I work in camping... to MN state park... just thought let u know I'd be gone... Sandi
Posted 7/8/2010 12:35 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks, Sandi, for letting us know or we might've wondered about you! We'll miss you, but have a great time!

Hugs,
Connie
Posted 7/8/2010 8:05 AM (GMT 0)
have a good time...
Posted 7/9/2010 5:11 AM (GMT 0)
oh yeah with three mentally ill ladies who have been very symptomatic lately... when we normally staff 2 in this situation.. and oh well... I'll live.. and we'll make it through it... hey maybe I'll get to look for a new job when it's all over...at least it'll help kick me out of this horrible depression... for a while.... feel like the walking dead lately... just drained and missing Mike...
Posted 7/9/2010 5:14 AM (GMT 0)
It's so hard right now... of all the stupid things... they have melon in the grocery store... and Mike wanted some... DQ is back.. all those things... I walk by things on the grocery store shelf like they are ghosts.. like I'm afraid... cuz... I can't handle it... and I just don't go... cuz it's just too hard.. if any of that makes any sense..God I miss Mike...
Posted 7/9/2010 1:45 PM (GMT 0)

I know it's hard right now.  Everything you see or hear reminds you of him.  In time, though, those same things will evoke sweet memories instead of pain.  I always liked the following poem.  Perhaps if you can see Mike's passing this way, it will help:

Do not stand at my grave and weep;

I am not there.  I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.

I am the diamond glints on snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain.

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning's hush,

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry;

I am not there.  I did not die.

                                                       ----author anonymous


Posted 7/9/2010 2:11 PM (GMT 0)
((((Sandi)))), I know right now you are devastated and see no bright spots. You just see reminders of Mike that make you miss him more. I promise that as time goes on those same reminders will warm your heart when you think of him. You will still miss him but it won't be this same devastating feelings that you are experiencing now. All of your feelings are part of the grief process. I was told that a person had to tell their story 100 times before they were healed. I don't know it that count is true or not, but talking about your loved one does help.

If you have a hospice bereavement group or any bereavement type therapy in your area I urge you to go. I was able to force myself to go 6 months after my husband died.......it was one of the best things that I could do for myself. It gave me the tools to deal with all the different feelings that kept popping up with me...... At that time I really believed that I was going nuts......but I found out, that it was all normal........part of the process.
Just like this forum is wonderful for people dealing with liver disease to be able to talk with others going through the same things.......I found out going to a bereavement group was wonderful for the same reasons.

Sandi, my email is in my profile.......Feel free to email me if you would like.

Lot's of thoughts and prayers.........
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