Living in the moment

I have posted alot of questions.  I have posted labs.  I have posted fears.  You have all been so nice and helped me through.  I have been advised over and over to live in the moment and enjoy the present and let go and let God.

I wanted to share with you all that I was able to do that this weekend.  Hubby and I had the best one since long before his dx.  Saturday night we went to a HS basketball game.  I posted the icky part about it under Rick's stigma post.  But the good part was that we did hook up with some friends we hadn't seen in a while and we were OUT!  Which was great, because our evenings have been on the couch (with a blanket , cause hubby is always cold) watching tv.  I don't mind cuddly time on the couch, but it was nice to be out.

Sunday night we went out to the fancy mall and had dinner with his sister and her husband.  Lovely evening.  Cold air on our faces walking the mall, good dinner, good company.  Planned on the spur of the moment.  Hubby was more talkative during dinner and seemed so much more himself.  His sister and husband are loving and supportive, ordering cokes and iced tea with dinner.  (Unlike other friends who lecture about alcoholism while sloshing their wine.)

Monday night we started a 1,000 puzzle.  We have never done a puzzle in our 27+ year marriage.  This was hubby's idea and purchase, he thought this would be something for us to do in the evening.  And he attacked it with a vengence.  And since he was in front of a card table moving around a bit he wasn't as cold as he usually is.

I felt peaceful and happy.  And didn't feel like doomsday was waiting for me around every corner.  Hubby feeling good had to do with it.  But also the lessons learned here from you all had me enjoying the moment and rolling around in it soaking it all up, instead of wondering when the expiration date on this peaceful happy feeling was.  Thank you.

Emma 

PS.  I was able to enjoy hubby as my husband and companion, not thinking about him as a patient.  That was really nice.

So happy for you. Keep it up Emma.

Thoughts and prayers......

Emma,

It's always good to hear about some "Happy" going on out there!!!  It does sound like you and hubby had a wonderful weekend!  I wish you and everyone else plenty more of those.

Rick, have a great time letting the mini van take you wherever it does!

Emma, thanks for sharing this. Times like this are so precious. May you have many more. Sandi, you are so right "it's an art learning to live" what a great phrase. hana

"He is the best all day right after the meetings.  Who woulda thunk?"

I would've, Carol!     There is a feeling of lightness after meetings.  The focus has been taken off of the self and things put in perspective.  There's usually a lot of laughter.  It's a natural high and indescrible to those who've never been immersed in AA.  However, he is probably still in the "pink cloud" phase.  At some point, he will become disenchanted.  That's usually around the time of the 4th or 8th step and when there is a lot of emotional upheaval.  The important thing is for him to continue to go to meetings and go forward with the steps and remember that "it gets better."

I'm so glad to hear that things are stable.  Only 2 more months to fulfill, but I know he will continue with meetings when it's not required.  Is there a f/u appt. at U of Miami?

Hugs,

Connie

healthynow,
The above post goes for you and your husband as well. I'd like to see more stories like this in the future.

Thanks, Carol.  Try to keep us updated.

Hugs,

Connie

Yes, we are still smiling.

Things are going well here. We celebrated my mom's 80th on Friday night. Family dinner out to Mom and Dad's favorite restaurant. The menu was challenging, lots of wine sauces. I was real proud of hubby asking the waiter about the ingredients in the selections. My dad told me he was really proud of him too.

Hubby is doing well. Has more energy now than he has since well before his dx. He cleaned the garage yesterday and cooked dinner last night. He earned his seat on the couch for football all day today. We met friends for dinner tonight. And enjoyed virgin margaritas over mexican food. This weekend once again was an oasis of normal. Our new normal as we enjoy each other's company and do chores, errands, and even bicker a bit...without alcohol in our lives. For the last 2 weeks I can feel the stress in my forehead easing up a bit since he is feeling so good.

Rick-glad that you and your wife had a nice weekend away. Horseback riding! That sounds great. I am hoping that my hubby will feel like he can get back to doing some golf soon.

Sue-thank you for sharing your story. I can only imagine! The screaming, "slow-downs" and a teenager behind the wheel chair.

Emma

One of my favorite pictures is of Mike and my daughter at the Monster truck show....it was a wonderful day...and the smile never came off Mike's face...what a gift that day was and is..seize the moments...Sandi