Posted 5/20/2011 1:36 PM (GMT 0)
I don't know what I'd do without you guys. I think sleeping on it and reading your posts helps with perspective. The positive is that he is capable and willing to do whatever it takes. We just have to get out of his way. It's hard when you see someone you love hurting. You want to rush in and save them. I guess that's not the right thing to do.
The good news is that the Director of transplantation at his hospital wants to follow him after discharge. One of the transplant team docs indicated that it is possible he could be reconsidered a week after discharge. At first I was mad because some people have a nuclear family and their spouse caring for them doesn't seem to be a problem, but here you have a single man being helped by his sister and niece and that's not acceptable? I've come full around to the fact that he has lived his whole life as a single man, they are going to want to ensure that he can continue to live independently as a single man and not become dependent on us. It makes sense. I really thought they would bring up compliance with a recovery program but that doesn't seem to be an issue.
Calvin will be going to AA everyday and will be taking a notebook to doctor appointments and we're just going to kind of be around for emotional support and let him do all this work. Like you said, it's a job. And for him, it's a brilliant distraction. His spirits are still good, he's deep in denial. I think it's part of his alcoholism. Either way, he's alive, he's sober, and you all are right. Where there is life there is hope and we are not giving up. Just revving up!