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Posted 8/15/2011 2:01 PM (GMT 0)
Starting another post as for the last was dealing with what's going on with my husband and maybe there's another thread for the caregiver and their emotions but I'm new to this forum and not sure ...this is my story from the beginning :

I'm 34 a single mom of two children 10 and 12. I got a divorce and was a single parent for about 4 years. I met al my new husband in may of 2010 . We hit it off had a lot in common and things were going great. He and my kids adored each other ...perfect right? ? Well things moved quickly. We lived about a hour apart from each other in August 2010 he decided to move closer to me ..we started looking at houses to rent
Found a perfect one close to my parents ..but not too close!! Christmas 2010 he asked me to marry him. So I couldn't imagine life without him so I said yes ....we started planning for a wedding for may 2011.....it was something important to me and my family as we are very close ..his family is far way in another state and his mother and sister both told him they weren't going to make the wedding
Posted 8/15/2011 6:49 PM (GMT 0)
Blonde,

Oh my gosh, you really are living a nightmare! And no, you should not feel guilty for anything. You didn't do anything wrong other than love the guy. You put your trust and love and your children into a relationship that you thought for for real, and a wonderful future. Little did you know.....You are right to be hurt and angry...I would be if I were in your shoes. I don't know why he wasn't honest with you upfront because he should have been. If it was real love it would have endured no matter what. However, now you are in the situation and you and your kids are going through a lot because of it. I can't really tell you what to do, but I'm sure if he gets well he will have a lot of explaining to do if he wants to keep you. And it sounds like you are a keeper because you are sticking with him through all of this. And if he can't be honest with you in the future, you may not want a future with him at all. As far as your kids are concerned, I'm afraid they would have to come first and foremost. They're probably scared right now and don't understand what's going on....Can his family help? It sounds like that's what you need right now..

Good Luck and I hope it all works out for you!

Posted 8/15/2011 6:53 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, Blonde. Here's the link to the Caregivers thread: 

https://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=25&m=2158628

That's a clickable link...or look for the thread on Page One. I'm going to bump it so it will be near the top.

You can copy and paste your post into that thread, or I can do it for you if you're not sure how.

How about drinking? Was he doing that prior to his collapse?

Hugs,
Connie

Posted 8/15/2011 10:53 PM (GMT 0)
Sad wife ; His family all lives in Michigan and we live in new Orleans ..through all this they have not come to see him once. I know Its far but he was bad off in April they didn't come. That would help. Since I've known him he's never had a drink and I don't drink much either . Thanks Connie I think I put it in the link you gave me. Who knows What the future holds ..trying to take it day by day
Posted 8/15/2011 11:35 PM (GMT 0)

Blonde, actually you didn't...you started a new thread.  So I copied and pasted it for you into the Caregiver thread and have bumped the CG thread to near the top of the first page.

Hugs,

Connie

Posted 8/16/2011 2:06 AM (GMT 0)
Connie ...sorry I see caregivers thread now ......thanks
Posted 8/16/2011 3:30 AM (GMT 0)

You're welcome.  There's a great supportive group in that thread.

Hugs,

Connie

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