My Step Dad,
It is important that you have found this forum. It can help you so much.
What you need to do is cut and paste your post (Just like in word processing) into a NEW Topic.
Call it something like: "Newcomer: Step Dad with Cirrhosis, We need help!"
Then more folks will find it and post their thoughts.
But here goes from me.
I have been coming to this site since the fall of 2010.
My partner, Mike, was about in the same shape as your step dad. Just change the name and the case is the same!!!!!
His liver was decompensated, he was sick as a dog, he was in and out of the hospital every month and we got a referral to a major medical center that does transplants -- Jackson at U Miami Medical School.
They do more multi organ transplants than any other, are 2 hours from our home and have treated him with kid gloves since he arrived there.
Mike's problem was not only that he had every symptom in the book, but he was still drinking alcohol.
OH NO. You have to be 6 months alcohol free (with documented treatment program -- AA, counselor, rehab, etc) if you are an alcoholic.
The Hep doc at Jackson put his hand on Mike's knee on October 17th (I remember the exact date in 2010.) "Mike, you won't last til Christmas if you drink another beer!" 3 months. PUt your affairs in order! GASP.
Well, he had quit drinking in September, but that didn't count. Only the days the AA sponsor signed his calendar.
The race began. Manage his symptoms. Go to AA many times a week. Time in hospital. AND THE CRAZIES.
I know too well what you are talking about with the obstanant negative behavior. He made me cry at least once a day, and I am a strong woman. He didn't want anyone to know he was sick. To look at him, you thought you should call an ambulance every day of the week.
One thing I am concerned about in your post, is hubby's wanting to control the information he is getting from his doctor. It is important that someone be his advocate as it is likely he will become more ill over time and someone may need to manage his meds, keep his prescriptions in order (Mike was taking 15 meds on various schedules and he was so loony he couldn't get it right...dumped all the pills together and surrendered one night...that was a mess to figure out). Mike was unable to unsnarl problems at the pharmacy, keep the appointments straight, sort out messes with the insurance. He will need help.
I also worry about one more thing: DRIVING.
Mike was determined to deep control of his driving priviledges. But he started driving crazy...saying he was going to show this one or that one a lesson. Swerving into lanes, stopping on a dime to give them a "break check." At first He wouldn't hear of stopping driving. That was when I told him he could drive if he liked, but I wouldn't drive with him. I got a lift or drove another car. Finally the doc took the keys, told him he put the no driving rule in the medical file and if he did drive and got in to a wreck the insurance wouldn't pay. I dont know if that is true, but he gave up driving for over a year that day!
Now he is fine, drives perfectly. The crazies went with the bad liver. They were much improved along the way with lactulose and xifaxan. Be sure to get prescriptions for those.
One of the moderators will be along to welcome you. don't forget to start a new thread.
Carol aka Mama Lama
Post Edited (MamaLama) : 4/18/2012 12:28:43 PM (GMT-6)