Dcowley,
My hubby has ESLD and has choosen not to be evaluated for a transplant. Currently he is in a nursing home. He, like your hubby, has very bad pain in his stomach (on the left side...one opposite the liver). He is on a fentenyal patch for the pain. His Dr. explained to him that his spleen is enlarged which causes the pain, and that happens because the blood can't get through the liver very well because of all the scar tissue (cirrhosis), which causes the blood to back up into the spleen, enlarging it and causing the pain.
In the past he has had stomach pain as a result of an infection, but this is different. Don't know if your hubby's pain is from the same thing or not. This is a painful disease to have and do hope the pain level decreases for your hubby.
So so sorry that he is ill and I understand your frustration as you search for ways to help him. My hubby has HE pretty badly somedays. It pretty much centers around whether he has been able to have 3 BMs a day. If he has, he mostly makes sense. If not, his cognitive and memory abilities are very compromised. He obviously does not work or drive. Usually he can't use a microwave, radio, tv etc. he needs help as he can't remember how they work.
We were told he can not overdose on lactalose, so when he was home (10 months of being really sick with ESLD) with me, I upped the lactalose so he could do at least 3 BMs a day. (doesn't sound like a problem for your hubby.) Mine also is sick to his stomach sometimes and seems like he hardly eats anything (I give him Boost often, per his Dr....also milk shakes as they help with the BMs).
I find the calmer I am, the better he does. At first I thought I had to correct him or "help" him get the facts straight...but he can't recall what he said in the last sentence. So instead of facts, I try to focus on how the conversation makes him "feel". [I long ago quit trying to tell, No, that is not what the Dr. said.] Now, I just use a lot of 'maybe", "we'll see" and "could be". For my own sanity, I had to learn to just say no to some of his requests. Everyday, he had a list of things for me to do or get (for the last 4 months...everyday). Now, sometimes, I just say "No, I can't do that today." [Example: "Get me pickles", "Get me little chocolate bars" "Get me more photos but have them enlarged" "Get me some exotic birds" "Get me some orchids" I want to take a trip" "I want to visit my family in Mexico" "I want you to read to me"...on and on it goes. And I have to work, and care for 23 horses, 7 cats, a dog, etc, so in order to stay sane, now I just sometimes say No I'm too tired (True).
I am curious as to why they are giving your hubby oxygen. Does he have COPD? Asthma? Do you think the oxygen helps with the HE?
Welcome aboard this forum. The folks on here are really helpful. Post often. We care.
Angie1953