Sandia,
My sis lost her partner of 42 years 2 years ago and is just now starting to climb out of the pit. Most of her friends are tired of it...her need to be alone, her inabilty to focus as they would like her to...but I can see that she cannot go further or faster than she is able.
Her partner was well, had a tummy ache, went to an ER, had her colon removed 2 days latter and died of Stage 4 colon cancer metastisized through her lymph system. So sad. So quick.
Grief is a tricky emotion. Just recently my sis has started to imagine life on her own. Is talking about moving to a place she might like...one with light and a view of the sea. It gives me hope to see her start anew.
And to you I say, well done. It is good you have a new plan...one that will help others in their own pit of dispair.
Best,
Carol