My sister is esld~ with kidneys failing

I forgot to say that our mom died last Thursday after a long battle with breast cancer...she was here with me in FL..my sister had little reaction to this is what my niece told me?? Which is not like her..I just lost my mother..now I think I am about to lose my sister:(... Can life really be this cruel?? My eldest sister died 3 yrs ago from inflammatory BC......
We have always been very close.. This has been the worst 4 years of our lives:(....

Thanks for your response..she quit drinking about 5 months ago or so.. She is an alcoholic & I know she will never go to AA..., but she now knows if she drinks at all she will die.
Her partner won't either~(go to AA)
I have been sober 21 years~ I do not have any liver damage~
I am very thank ful for that.

I'm not sure she is candidate for a transplant?
I have been told she isn't ...then she said she is??
She has a lot of doctors..and she is on Lactulose..
I just wondered , once they start doing blood transfusions, how long can that go on??
I would love to somehow help her , and information is all I can think of from so far away...
I will check your info listed

Hi FC, Welcome to the forum.

I am caregiver to my 62 year old partner...look through my old posts...he had a transplant after a long bout with alcoholic cirrhosis, Hep C, and ESLD. All the usual symptoms.

He quit drinking, got sober, went to AA, and got on a transplant list about the time he was also diagnosed with Liver cancer. His tumor stayed small enough that he needed no treatment for that, but it did help him get pushed up on the list.

He went to AA and got his documentation.

He is really lucky and doing well a year after, though not perfect. He still has Hep C, so we may get to do this all over again at some point.

There isn't much you can do being half a world away from your sister, and she may or may not have lots of time left...that is on her and on her body's ability to process food and wastes with a severely damaged liver. Some can get sober and earn YEARS more time! Even without transplant.

BUT, I would ask you this. If you knew she only had a month or 6 weeks to live, would you go to visit or would you go to her funearal..and which would you prefer?

If you can, I'd go now and make some peace with her. She is going to stick with her man, evidently, so you can't ride in there on a white horse and take over. But you could go to visit, maybe give him some time off, spend time with her.

If money is aproblem for the flights...go when she is alive.

Best,
Carol

Laura, perhaps her legs are "weeping" fluid and that's what she means by draining.

She would need a calendar or to make up a simple form with her name at the top and then the date, particular meeting she went to, and a space for the chairperson's signature. She would take this to every meeting and have it signed at each one. Before doing this, though, she should contact the hospital she would go to, their Transplant Dept., to find out if AA would be the requirement or if it is alcohol counseling. Some prefer the counseling.

Hugs,
Connie

If she goes to the meeting regarding transplant, they will lay it all out to her as to what will be required.

Do keep us updated and have a good holiday.

Hugs,
Connie