Is this normal or should I worry ?

I seriously think Mark is giving up and its scaring me ! He wont tell me anymore if he is having pains or any other issues ! Reluctantly last night he told me that he is still having right side belly pain,up in liver area,and more puzzling is that a few times now when he has had to Pee,he cant go ! I am pretty sure he doesn't have kidney stones,he would be in severe pain with that ! He says after a few minutes he can go after trying and pushing it out ! Has this happened to anyone else ? He" forgets" to take his lactulose and Insulin now too !

Possibly his kidneys are going out also , May want to get him back to docs office asap .

He possibly is learning what pains are normal and the ones that are signs of needing medical assistance , For me I just found there wasn't anyhting to do other than endure it .






A. Ziffle

My family and friends call Mark,"an empty shell" He does not talk unless spoken to,no laughter,nothing ! The only time he will even go outside of the house anymore is to go to the Dr ! He watches tv from 5pm until 9 pm,but only 2 shows..2 1/2 men or NCIS, I have watched the same repeats so many times over that I could tell you what each episode is in my sleep ! I am going to write an email to his liver Dr as soon as I am done here,The wonderful thing about our health system is I can do that and not have to go Through his nurse and will get a reply back within a couple of hours ! Thank you for the advice !

NEH , Mark could be feeling much like I did when this mess was really beating me down . I didn't want to speak because my ability to clearly think stopped the words from flowing correctly , Making me feel like others viewed me as mentally ill . I didn't want to be seen in public because there was no denying I physically looked like walking death , I looked like a bag of bones with a basketball sized abdomen , You could see the outline of my skull through my skin and eye sockets deeply recessed . This is what I saw every morning that I stepped into the bathroom and looked at my reflection .

I know it's not for everyone but I strongly recommend he find something to busy himself , Doing something like putting together a kids model car , Building a birdhouse or anything to keep his mind from wondering to a impending doom . Fighting the urge to just lay there and let nature take it's course is difficult . Excuses abound , This I know all to well . I have to remember that I always felt better immediately after I found myself steeped in work or activities . It takes the mind away from that place and provides much needed stimulation to the soul , We all need a sense of purpose and to be a bump on a log just doesn't bode well for humans .


A. Ziffle

NEH, in such a case the only thing you can do is CARRY ON.

Do for yourself, quit making yourself crazy with this. Eat well, exercise, meet friends for lunch. Have a life.  And look after what needs to be done for him as if he were a patient you looked in on a few times a day. 

You need to get some distance from this. Don't beg or complain.  His depression is HIS depression. It is sad he is in a really bad place.  But get this...you may lose him at some point...and then what?  YOU NEED TO BE OKAY...now and then.

There is help for him, there are pills for him, docs to see.  It is up to him. Like alocholism...it is HIS.

Hopefully, you will be fine in the end.

Hugs,

Carol