Welcome S69,
Welcome to this forum. There are many very knowledgeable people on here, both ill with this disease and caregivers. So so sorry you even had to find this forum and have a very ill husband.
My husband has End Stage Liver Disease from Hep C, is diabetic and has been so ill he spent 6 months in a nursing home. He is now home and we fight the struggle with HE. He takes lots of lactalose. Everytime he wasn't thinking very clearly, Dr. says more lactalose...he is to poop 3 x a day and we struggle getting there, but the more lactalose the more clearly he can think....most days.
He decompensated Feb of 2011 and it has been very difficult since then. I had to limit work to part time to care for him, now I have to go back and find full time work for financial reasons. He is now on Hospice, (in home hospice). He has choosen to not get evaluated for a transplant, so our path won't have a happy ending and we have dealt with that.
The day to day stuff is really a struggle, and when I read that you are going to school, working and raising 2 teenagers, my heart goes out to you. This is a very tough road...
As far as diet that helps, we do mostly fruits and veggies, locally grown, if possible. No red meat and lots of smoothies. They help with the BMs. Smoothie,,,,Ice cream, milk, yougert, fresh fruit, spices, flax seed, honey. I mix it up. Sometimes has used avecados, lots of bananas, lots of yougert. Blend them all to together and he will drink it. Seems like he will drink smoothies, when he won't or can't eat other food. If you think he is not getting enough protein, put a Boost drink in the smoothie. I even put the lactalose in the smoothie and blend it in. He can't even tell it's in there.
Feel free to post on the caregivers page. You will need to ask questions, vent, share or whatever. It has been a lifesaver for me some days, when I am at the end of my rope. And I understand what you say about folks not realizing what this is like. Somedays my husband sounds fine and people talk to him, and think I am nuts when I tell them how sick he is and is on hospice. Anyway....welcome.
Others will stop by and respond to you, too.
This is a huge rollercoaster ride, like nothing you have experienced before. The ups and downs are drastic. Take care.
Angie1953