Jane (isn't that your nom de plume a la Mae?),
You are worried. I get that. But so worried that you are not functioning well? When our worries carry us to a place where we can't sleep, can't do our daily tasks, it is time to find someone to help, someone professional to talk to.
That's what I did. I realized I wasn't helping either of us being so upset I was fussing at my sick partner when he couldn't help how he was acting, and my hyper vigilance wasn't curing him one bit.
The counselor helped me see that I need to settle down, to take care of myself, and to face the possibility that all the intervention in the world might still net a sad outcome...and to be more accepting of my lack of control over that outcome.
She worked with me to help me live more in the moment, to try make good memories, to be supportive without making my partner more anxious too.
And she had me see a doc about
some anti anxiety medication that is working well. I don't take a giant doses, but enough to keep me from spinning in my mind.
Your Mom needs you, and needs you to be okay...now and later...if if if. But, the TP centers have a very high degree of success...they don't take on lost causes for TP. The statistics ARE VERY HIGH for success at surgery and first year, so the data is heavily in her favor. And the docs are very motivated to keep their post TP folks on a successful track.
I would assume after care treatment protocol as a good one and feel certain they are doing their best. With a few bumps that they all seem to have along the way, your Mom is likely to do well.
Mike's worst bump was when they tried to change him from prograf to rapamune as the anti rejection med. Their motivation was that the rapamune was easier on the kidneys and Mike's creatinine and GFR were too high. The poor man got mouth sores as big as extra tonsils! And nothing would work. He wound up with one of those 5 day hospitalizations where they changed his meds, gave him some neupogen by injection to boost white cell production, and supplemented various chemicals to get his electrolytes back in balance. Mike was so miserable for a long time...worse that the transplant recovery according to him. It resolved, he is back on prograf with cellcept sometimes too. He is on and off that for various reasons.
Sorry these in between times are so bumpy at your house.
Hugs,
Carol
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