First Visit with New Doctor

Morning all

So we had our first visit yesterday with new doctor with SIL and I have to say I was very impressed with him. They were very thorough with taking her history, and her med and asking her questions. I will say that I did catch her a few times not being completely honest with her answers and I made sure that the nurse was aware of the truth as I knew it. She tried to hide the history of abuse in her past which is a very important thing the doctor needs to do as she was hospitalized several times with head traumas and various broken bones. She also I believe is not truthful about her sobriety as I have heard 4 or 5 different time frames. I believe it cant be any longer than 6 months as this is about the time frame she started to be civil on the phone with me, prior to this it was nastiness and major attitude during conversations. I of course let them know this. The office also checked codex to make sure she was not drug seeking and was glad to hear this. They minced no words with her concerning this fact. She also at this time was being a bit dramatic with things but you could tell that is what was going on and worked through it with her.

Dr came in and started talking to us and going over her history. Told her he was going to take things slow with her as he did not have her records yet, but would treat her. Ordered blood work to be done, is sending her to a local GI doctor and also to Infectious disease for her hepatitis C. He did give her a script for phenagran but would not give her any pain medications at this time but handled it with grace and told her that until he had labs completed on her and knew what her liver and kidneys were doing that he was not comfortable with giving her anything for pain at this time. Her pain scale was only a 4 at this point so I think it was a great answer.

I am very impressed with the fact that they listened to my concerns with things and the way it was handled. I still dont trust everything she is saying to me or the doctors at this point and this will take some time for me to be able to trust things. Her memory as far as time is really off but I also know this is due to all the issues she has, it is like she has lost 2 or 3 years of her memory so trying to put this all together is being quite the challenge.

She was angry when we left the doctors office at first because he wouldn't give her pain meds, but quickly calmed down after understanding the need for blood work first and all that. She did come home and ate a lot more than she had for the past few days, and seemed to perk up a bit.

That is where we are at this point, other than her trying to convince me she is feeling depleted and is hinting towards wanting to go to the hospital. The process with this doctor is before we go to er that if during the day we call his office first or at night call the service and take it from there, as at this point it is 4 days with no pain meds and he thinks she might be detoxing a bit from them.

Sharon

The kids haven't had a relationship with her in over 8 years and they have the memory of the drunk mom, with the broken promises and disappointments, so they are keeping their distance yet as they are sure if they can trust her to actually get close to her. This is the first time they have even seen her in over 2 1/2 years due to her doing. Over the past 8+ years they maybe have seen her 10 times so they are being very cautious and rightly so.

The oldest one is angry at her and is slowly dealing with that and there will be the time where he will confront her on all of his issues, but only when he is ready. The youngest had just started to question why they were living with us and wanting to know the truth, and he wants to know why? I have talked to them both about it being okay to be angry about all this and that it is healthy to be angry, but trying to help them understand that she may never be able to answer the questions they have at this time to their satisfaction.


Sharon