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Posted 6/4/2010 12:45 AM (GMT 0)
Hey everyone I hope you all are well myself doing ok like I've mentioned in my last post,but something has come up!!! I moved to a new apartment I love my new place,but some of my neighbors in this building are somewhat social and like to get together for bbqs when it's nice out.I've pretty much kept to myself but at times saying hello to some of my neighbors then I keep it moving!! LOL! Well there is this guy in my building and just my friggen luck lives above me!! I honestly dislike this guy!!! from the moment I met him I got bad ugly vibes from him!!! For some strange reason I decided to share with him that I have IBS.From the start when meeting him he was all in my face when I met him at this organization.He was just asking me all these questions like why I do not hangout at this organization more often? For some strange reason I ended up telling him that I have IBS.I met him at an organization that he works at and me as a client he's supposed to keep that information I shared with him confidential!!!!

I've learned from a friend of mine who used to be friends with him that he's going around telling people that I have IBS.Just my dam luck this guy lives above from me!!!! It's taking everything that I have to not when I cross paths with him to cuss him the bleep out something serious!!!! I've even thought about if I even hear someone in this building coming to me and saying that he told them that I have IBS I will go and beat this fat ugly looking gorilla looking self up!!!! I will wear him out!!!! he's just jealous of me first and upset that my friend who used to be friends with him is spending time with me and not his ugly ass! What should I do guys?!!! take the high road and ignore him and keep it moving! My friend has told me twice two not so nice things he's said about me concerning my IBS.The devil on my shoulder tells me to go cuss his ugly fat nasty looking ass out!!!, and beat the ugly off him!!! Then the angel on my other shoulder is telling me to just ignore his friggen ugly looking monkey ass and just pay no mind to him and pay him dust when we cross paths. I will like to hear from you all of what I should do guys?! I really want to just cuss his ugly ass out!!!! I'll wait and see what you guys have to say to me about this situation I would really love to read some of your advice!!!! Well guys take care God bless and stay strong we wont let IBS define us!!!! Love you all!!! smilewinkgrin :-)
Posted 6/4/2010 1:56 AM (GMT 0)
This is why I don't even tell people I have IBS-like symptoms and issues. But I used to. I went that route for a few years. Why? I guess because I wanted someone to understand and someone to say - there, there, I understand. But eventually I came to this conclusion: most people with iron clad stomaches and normal colons, will never understand. And I used to get so upset with these people until one day I realized I could have very well been ONE of them. Prior to my troubles and colon resection, I could eat anything and everything and poop once a day. If someone had told me they had D and spent hours in the bathroom everyday I would have probably said - can't you take a pill for that? As if it's so easy to fix. Sure.

So jt, what I did was come at my IBS from a completely different angle. I just decided to heck with the rest of the world, I am the one struggling with it, what can I do to ease my symptoms and take care of things. As you know, I've posted what works for me, bla bla bla, won't bore you with it but I truly did not manage as well as I do now until I looked at this crazy situation I find myself in (for life by the way) from an outsider's perspective.

I know I'm getting off track and you've already told this man you have IBS. Since the cat is out of the bag, let him talk, it'll all quiet down soon. Hold your head high, smile, say hello to people. Smile on the outside, cringe on the inside. And avoid this man (other than to say hello). No more chit chat with him! (of course now I'm sounding like a mother aren't I? so sorry......lol).

You hang in there, this too shall pass. Trust me on this.

But shame on that man.
Posted 6/4/2010 3:41 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you Marsky!!!!,I will take that advice to heart!!!,never let them see you sweat right?!!!!,He's just mad that I look younger and better then him! LOL!!!! I'm going to keep my head up and keep it moving and just ignore his ass pay him dust!!!!! I'll keep being the beautiful self that I am this IBS does not define who I am!!!! It's not my soul my heart and my spirit or my light!!!! :)
Posted 6/4/2010 3:42 PM (GMT 0)
JT, I say ignore him and move on as much as possible. A person certainly doesn't need more stress.

Unless something else happens and you need to address that, I would ignore him with the hope this will die down. If you don't it could esculate and like I said who needs more stress.
Posted 6/4/2010 9:22 PM (GMT 0)
i got news for everybody...i have ibs/c, asthma and am somewhat crippled. most people especially hate the crippled part of me. am awkward since i recently had a total knee replacement and i can not hide it.

i guess it is human nature to taunt and look down on people. it is tiring though. just look at it this way....if these jerks had brains they would be dangerous.

take care folks
Posted 6/4/2010 9:22 PM (GMT 0)
i got news for everybody...i have ibs/c, asthma and am somewhat crippled. most people especially hate the crippled part of me. am awkward since i recently had a total knee replacement and i can not hide it.

i guess it is human nature to taunt and look down on people. it is tiring though. just look at it this way....if these jerks had brains they would be dangerous.

take care folks
Posted 6/4/2010 10:21 PM (GMT 0)
You could always poop on him. (sorry, I couldn't resist) : )
Posted 6/4/2010 11:11 PM (GMT 0)
Or let rip the smelliest fart of your life!

That is a way to clear a room or elevator......
Posted 6/4/2010 11:53 PM (GMT 0)
JT....you would think some people mature as they grow older and leave all the middle school and high school shennigans behind them and be a responsible adult...how sad...But..look at it this way...we all have faults and things happen to us when it is no fault of our own..we are just victims of circumstances....unfortunately, this man has still not grown up and passed on to the adult world. He is still living as a child inside him and he is the one that should be looked at with pity in your eyes. I would feel sorry for any poor soul that still acts so immature. Look at him with pity in your eyes and tell him that u forgive him for he cannot help what he does. For some reason, his brain never developed properly and that should be enough to feel sorry for this immature man.

That should make him think about his actions in the future. Just be congenial because you are neighbors and you have to live with this person in your life for now. Believe me, he will wonder what you are all about and probably be stupified by your reactions.

I have been diagnosed with HCV in which I contacted it thru a blood transfusion back in 1982.( Before they checked for the virus) I have had it for over 20 years now and I am taking the combo therapy for it..Life has been hell....but when people ask me why I look so tired all the time or why I don't look my best today..I just smile at them and I tell them exactly what is happening to me. I do it for this reason and this reason only....we know it is noones business, but, I tell them to help educate them and the public about this wide spreading disease. As a matter of fact..I tell them so much about it that they get tired of it and usually walk away..hahahaha...I am very open and honest about my disease and if people want to spread the newsw around, then, they might as well have the facts about it right?  IBS is nothing to be ashamed about...I could not imagine having to go thru what you have to deal with everyday of your life. But try to be an educator about it and put these people in their place. Pity the lost souls that do not try to understand your plight and all the others who have IBS. Anyway, good luck to you. Life is too darn short to worry about what others may think of you. You know who and what you are...your friends know and your family knows...who else counts?

Hugs..... yeah Julie

Posted 6/6/2010 4:55 PM (GMT 0)
i like that answer julie, i look at it this way, these people may be healthy but i have a high iq. sometimes i just feel aloof from the crowd.
Posted 6/6/2010 5:50 PM (GMT 0)
Ditto....most of the time I just keep to myself especially while I am on these treatments.....I will never hold back from speaking up and putting someone intheir place when they are ignorant of the situation. KARMA....just remember that word. The universe has a way of dealing with these people. How sad to look at life thru their eyes. Bless you, Joan and u keep hanging in there! Prove to them who has the most intelligence.......Take care....Julie
Posted 6/9/2010 1:35 AM (GMT 0)
turn  thank you jewels, it is good to get some positive feedback turn
Posted 6/17/2010 5:13 AM (GMT 0)
ugh,people suck so much sometimes!!! I'm so sorry you have this jerk living in your building. hope things die down soon,I'm sure they will. stupid idiot. people can be so cruel sometimes,but I think everybody is right,you just have to hold your head up and get through it,and remember you have nothing to be ashamed about.this is a disease. what a jerk.
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