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Posted 5/8/2007 1:45 AM (GMT 0)
I don't really post but today I just need some other people to talk to who understand what it's like. I've just been so unhappy lately. My friends will go out and do stuff and I can't because I just don't feel good and I feel like I'm wasting my life. All the days I've sat around doing nothing but feeling crap, I won't get them back and it's just really bugging me. I know it could be alot worse but it still really upsets me. I just wish it would go away.
Posted 5/8/2007 7:19 AM (GMT 0)

Hey Luna,

Sorry to hear you're having such a rough go of things.  Everyone has these ups-and-downs, but it's certainly frustrating when you feel like crap and feel like you're missing out on life.  I've had many such occasions, as have most others on this board.  What I do when I'm feeling like that: invite a good friend over and watch something mindless like Indiana Jones movies, drink Gatorade, make a fire in the fireplace, curl up with a good book, listen to some new music, whatever it takes to make myself feel comfortable emotionally if I can't feel comfortable physically.

Do you have a trusted friend who could spend time with you at your place instead of going out?  Do you have many indoor hobbies, like crocheting or knitting or reading or drawing, that would be relaxing for you when you're not feeling well? 

You'll get through this rough patch, don't worry.  Vent all you like, that's what we're here for.

Posted 5/8/2007 7:00 PM (GMT 0)
My friends come hang out alot and I'm glad for that. I still feel like I could be doing better though, and it always bugs me. I always think about how we could be out or doing something and it'll still bug me.

I read alot, sit and watch t.v with mom, hold my hedgehogs and play with them, Photo Shop stuff and it's ok I don't mind it but the real thing worrying me is someone coming to visit me this summer. What if I feel like crap while he's here? I'd be so mad at myself if I ruined the whole thing since he'll only be here 2 weeks. BUt knowing I can't control it scares me...

I just want it to go away. :(
Posted 5/9/2007 2:47 AM (GMT 0)
You can only cross that bridge when you come to it.  If you're not feeling the greatest, your friend should understand, but it doesn't mean you guys can't still enjoy each other's company!  Maybe find some relaxed activities outside of the home that feel "safe" to you (where you'll have a bathroom when you need it, for example).  There are many people with IBS who have a fear of leaving the house.  I think it's a destructive cycle because the more they stay in, the more anxiety they have about eventually leaving, if that makes any sense - although I recognize that it's difficult when you're not sure if your bowels will cooperate.  I always think to myself, what's the worst that could happen?  Chances are, it won't be that bad or even close.

 

Posted 5/9/2007 8:20 AM (GMT 0)
I know how you feel gurl~And Sarita is absolutely correct I've been "trapped" in my house for 3 years~I have BAD anxiety now that I havent left~My Diarrhea doesn't let me go no where~I usually take Immodium AD but some days it just doesn't work~I don't have a gallbladder so when I get gas I get it bad!!!! I do drink ALOT of Pepsi no ciggarettes drugs just Pepsi is my downfall for years but I find myself SO depressed at times more then often~I don't have any friends to "come over" I would just get "anxious" and have to poop so WHY should they come over? I'm 34 and Iv'e been dealing with the D for about 12 years and there is no known cause for it maybe anxiety and depression~I hope you feel better DON"T stay home though cuz emotionally it has killed me but with Gods help and my prayers I WILL be active again(with my box of Immodium) :) Melany~Las Vegas,Nevada
Posted 5/9/2007 12:41 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Melany... wanted to welcome you to Healing Well :-)
Posted 5/9/2007 8:05 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks guys. It's good to have other people who understand.
Posted 5/10/2007 6:54 AM (GMT 0)
Thanx for the welcome :) LUNA I also take Immodium everyday like candy and have been for like 9 years~Seems to stop the D but the cramps sometimes make me wanna roll over and die~~I feel o.k. today NO dizzy spells~cuz i'm just a "dizzy" biotch HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Take Care~Melany
Posted 5/11/2007 6:31 PM (GMT 0)
I am sorry to hear that you are going through this.  I have the same problem; get sick, don't feel like doing anything, can't stay out of the bathroom and sometimes can't make it to the bathroom.  It is very frustrating and embarrasing.  Usually the only people i want to be around is my husband, children, and my mother because they have been there w/me the whole time and they try to understand.  They like for me to go places with them and i do as much as i can.  Hang in there there will be good days and just take advantage of the good days.  I often feel sorry for myself and wish other people could really understand, but that just leads to more depression.  Trust me I know.  I have lost several jobs due to absences from ibs and it can be very upsetting to have a chronic condition, but you just have to accept it and do the best you can.  It can leave you just worn out and sick feeling - like achy and chills for me - just rest and do like some of the others have said, read, watch tv, talk on phone, crochet or something - you will feel better in a day or two.

Posted 5/13/2007 2:20 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks guys, I'm feeling a lot better now. It's not like that all the time but when it is I get so stressed out. Of course right now I'm un-happy about other things. It's either one or the other with me. If I don't feel sick from that I feel sad about other stuff going on. 
Posted 5/14/2007 10:42 PM (GMT 0)
Hi,
I just wanted to remind you all that taking Imodium on a daily basis is not recommended unless OKed by your doc. Daily use of Imodium has been said to cause the colon to weaken. Daily use could also cause dependency issues.
Dbab's doc has mentioned to her that it is possible her diverticulosis could be caused by Imodium abuse. Just an FYI.
Calcium has been widely use to help manage D and could be worth looking into.
Posted 5/15/2007 2:53 PM (GMT 0)
You may also want to ask about anti-depressants. Some people have responded amazingly well to them. Something about hte guts having more serotonin in them than our brains and our guts getting "depressed" and not functioning correctly. You sound like you may be a little depressed too. I understand that; I naturally go through periods of mild depression and have since I was a young teen. I just get depressed and unhappy for no particular reason, don't want to be around people, and yet feel lonely, etc. Mine's mild enough that it will go away on its own, but since the anti-depressants might also help your guts, it's worth asking your doctor about. If they worked, you'd have a double reason for feeling good.
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