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Posted 12/3/2011 8:19 PM (GMT 0)
Interested in how others handle social commitments, in relation to their ongoing bathroom needs.

My current dilemma?

Friends of mine from high school days are meeting for a meal and drinks, then going to a holiday concert at our old school. Sounds like fun doesn't it? The only problem is if I eat I won't be able to enjoy the concert.

I am tempted to just eat and then say goodnight to everyone.

That way I won't be the main discussion at the dinner table (I will be if I don't eat anything).

I have become such a homebody as I get older, because of all this. Sigh....

How do you handle meals before an event such as a play or auditorium, where you are possibly stuck in the middle of a long row of seats, with a rumbling gut, needing a bathroom. Trouble is too, I not only will need a bathroom, not once but probably half dozen times (if I eat a meal).

I wish people would just not even glance at me when I say - nothing for me. But they'll probably want to discuss why I live this way. Sometimes I have infinite patience but lately I just say - turns out losing a good chunk of your colon greatly impacts your life!!! Then I laugh. Because well, it's better than having a mini pity party. I do cry later though.

Thanks in advance for any tips or suggestions.

I wish this concert didn't follow the meal, but the other way around. Dang.

Post Edited (Marsky) : 12/3/2011 1:24:10 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 12/4/2011 1:09 AM (GMT 0)
Run late, meet them at the restaurant just in time to leave and go to the concert.

I just let my friends know from the get go, I will enjoy a cup of tea and conversation during their meal but I simply cannot partake. Never had an issue.

I do hope you go, and enjoy yourself.

Carlie
Posted 12/4/2011 2:38 AM (GMT 0)
Ooooh, I like that, running late.

I did prewarn them this past summer I'd be eating very little but then had to cancel anyway.

It's easier to not eat in someone's home, in a restaurant it's a little different.

Well I'm still contemplating what to do about this outing....thanks for your help.
Posted 12/7/2011 1:41 PM (GMT 0)
I've decided to attend the dinner, which has been moved up 30 minutes so as to linger and socialize at the restaurant, before the concert. And eat. Yes I know, I know, I am going to have a meal and enjoy myself. I've already said I'd meet my friends there so I won't be coerced into car pooling (another dilemma with all of this, being stuck in someone else's car if my gut is doing it's normal song and dance routine). So I'll eat and when leaving for the concert (short drive away), I will explain as succinctly as possible, I now need to go home. Once I eat, I need to stay very close to a bathroom and then I'll smile and say - enjoy the concert! Of course I will have my car keys ready and when they start up with - but there are bathrooms just outside the auditorium, I will say no thanks, I won't be able to remain in my seat if I continue on.

I can't believe at my age, 56, that none of my friends have had bowel issues, come on, we are aging baby boomers. But most are of the poop once a day camp and can eat anything they want, even a large meal before taking that seat in a crowded auditorium.

The other thing too is this, I always want that aisle seat. And then people look at me - YOU, want the aisle seat? Whatever for? lol On the outside you'd never suspect I poop even more than a newborn baby does in a 24 hour time period.

Sigh.......December is such a trying month with all of this. I did see a commercial last night for liquid Peptobismal, for those overeating at a holiday party. I thought - hey it's about time, lol!
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