new member's story and needing advice

hi everyone.i am a new member here and i just wanted to let you all know about my story with ibs.
my ibs started in my late teen years which was about 25 years ago.back then i had the problem of my bowels not going for weeks at a time.i saw a specialist who said i had ibs.at that time i was also suffer severe upper stomach pains which really impacted on my personal life and working life.fast forward many years and now my ibs has become really bad.i have just turned 43 and this is still having a huge impact on my life.i am also a chronic migraine and headache suffer and still get bad upper stomach pains.i suffer chronic pain in my bladder with other issues concerning my bladder as well.i suffer severe sinus as well which is making my life awful.anyway,here are my syptoms on my ibs at the moment in my life.
constipation,bloated stomach all the time,
severe cramping when needing to go
hot sweats
dizzyness
nausea
diareara
i have tried everything laxitive on the market but most just cause severe bowel pains.eating more fibre does not help.the only thing i have found that helps my bowels work a bit better is eating lots of greasy high fat foods.needless to say i have put on a huge amount of weight because of that.the pains could go all night or all day and nothing happens.usually starts out solid but my the time i have run to the toilet for about the 8 th time in a row,i get the diareara.i also get uncontrollable diareara which makes my life a living hell because i don't make it to a toilet in time.it is worse when out in public.i also find that if i am having an extra bad migraine,my bowels hit as well.does any of this sound like any of you guys?i would really like to know what i can do to help this problem.i am on a waiting list to see a specialist about this and maybe have one of those awful tests but the wait time is about 4 years.i can't afford to go private.

hi ajp1959.i am so sorry to hear you have and are still going through such a difficult time with your ibs.when i was single like you and trying to date guys,i had all the same problems as you.i am the one who said that eating greasy junk food actually helps your bowels go.my ibs has got a lot worse over the years,if that was even possible.you just have to be careful what you choose to eat to start with.you can eat most foods but try to stick to normal bland foods.don't go for the spicy type foods.be careful what you order at restaurants.i got to the stage that no matter what i ordered at a restaurant,withing a short time,i copped severe bowel pains and diareara.eating mc donalds seems to be ok.eating the meats at subway will set me off.you really don't need to go on extreme food elimation diets.you can eat most foods.i take fibre granules when my bowels have not worked for a couple of days.it will not be pleasant the day after running to the loo about 5 times in a row but everyone's bowel symptons are different.it does make it hard to have a social life.i agree.if i know my bowels are due to hit,i freak out if i have to go out.i went to my brother in laws place about a month ago for a bbq and my bowels decided to hit.i was in the toilet for over an hour and they did not have a spare toilet at the house and other people wanted to use the toilet and they could not.it was awful.i ended up blocking up their toilet event though i kept flushing due to the amount of toilet paper used.by the time i staggered out,i was shaking,sweaty and very pale in the face.we had to drive home straight away and it was a long drive too.this is how my life is now.ibs can run in families too.my twin sister and dad suffer so badly as well.within the last two weeks i have been up through the entire night with severe pains but nothing was happening.the point is,you sound like you have tried a lot of things and you still suffer.ibs does not go away as you get older.most people just have to learn to live with it even though it really does effect your life.i went through a phase where my bowels decided to be extremely solid and i could not pass them.there is nothing worse than squatting on the toilet floor screaming in pain while your hubby has to put his fingers up there to try and get it out.i even had to call an ambulance once because of the same problem but they could not help me.ibs will go through different phases throughout your life with different types of symptons.the trick is not to leave it too long to use your bowels or things just get a whole lot worse.always stock up with lots of loo paper and keep spare rubber gloves in your bag in case you get caught out in public.sorry i have not been much help but i hope things improve for you.you are still young and i understand how it is making life hard for you at the moment.good luck.sorry this post was so long.i do tend to talk alot.i am here to support you if you need me.take care.