Phobia of bowel trouble

I’m seventy years old and I just feel like I can’t live with this anymore. I miss out on so much in my life. I’ve always had a fear of going to the bathroom in public ,or more a fear of what do I if I can’t hold it. I know it started when I was five and a teacher said no when I asked if I could go to the bathroom and I wet on the floor in front of the whole class. Also my mother would always say” Go to the bathroom now because you can’t go when we’re out!”
As years went on I started to worry about bowel movements. First I had trouble getting to work etc. now it’s I’m afraid to even go to the neighbours. I know it’s more about what people think of me but I don’t know how to stop the anxiety. I would really like a better ‘rest of my life’ as time is running out and I’m exhausted trying to find excuses for my children and grandchildren as to why I can’t do certain things with them. I’ve tried antidepressants, hypnotherapy, individual counselling ,group counselling etc,etc. I’d appreciate and suggestions

I have the same issues. My head doc says I could use exposure therapy to help. Go do things, you most likely will be fine. Have you had any accidents recently? The “what if’s” are getting in the way of life. The more you do things and don’t have an issue your anxiety may lower. If all else fails wear a pas or adult diaper could help just in case. I just turned 47, hopefully I will be able to fix my issues or learn to cope with them soon. Best of luck to you.