Kidney transplant and problems

A transplant is a massive physical and psychological trauma, and you cannot count on the hospital to recognize this. A great many people experience depression after transplant, and it should be expected. The anxiety too, for the same reasons.

Now, I don't know how to handle the osteopenia and osteoarthritis. I think those need to be addressed with a specilaist separately. You should try to find yourself a good psychologist, and open up to her/him about everything you feel. Vent your feelings about the transplant. You need validation right now.

I've had two transplants in my life, one at 12 years old, and another at 17 years old. Now, at 30, I'm waiting on another. My feelings weren't given any credibility after either of them, and a few years ago I cam within minutes of committing suicide. That is how serious the trauma is. No, you are by no means the only person who feels the way you do.

The medical system fails both children and adults. You should reach out to other people - friends, family, and a therapist, and express to them how you have experienced what's happened. Find something you are passionate about to devote your identity to, or you run the risk of believing you're only alive to feel pain. That's what nearly destroyed me.

Your family and friends don't need to have been through similar experiences. They only need to allow you to open up to them, vent your feelings, and give you some validation and support. I know you're overwhelmed right now, but try not to overwhelm them. Take it slow, step by step. You are welcome to talk to me more as well.

And, again, you'll also need to find a good psychologist - not a psychiatrist and not a general physician - and don't let a doctor just give you medication for depression. What you're dealing with is a trauma and identity issue, and if they don't recognize that much, find someone who does.

Those people who look at you like you're crazy and 'putting it off' (although I'm not quite sure what that one refers to) are actually doing tremendous harm. YOU ARE NOT CRAZY. You've been through an incredibly stressful ordeal. You may want to find someone who addresses trauma specifically.

I'm going to see my psychologist again next Tuesday, and it's possible, although I cannot promise anything, that she may know someone. Where do you live? That chance may depend a lot on location. Keep reminding yourself, you're not crazy. You've been through a lot. And, importantly, find something you enjoy to do every day. It really helps.

Thanks so much and I live in snyder tx a really small town about 86 miles south of Lubbock. And I am starting to think living here where I don't have any family beside my husband I don't know but 1 person is alot of why I feel so tired and not wanting to do much comes from just feel alone all the time. But I do see where finding something I like to do every day would help out alot. And talking on here seems to help this is first place I have found to talk to people who have been thu same thing I am going thu.