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Posted 3/23/2009 5:41 PM (GMT 0)
My first granson baby "Owen Michael" went to heaven on March 22,2009. He was born on March 6, 2009. His lung collapsed nd he didn't make it.  I recieved the call at 2:30AM, my daughter in-law crying her heart out, I couldn't go because I was soo sick, I have a very bad cold and with a bad flare too that I could barley move my body out of bed.  I feel so bad I couldn't be there to hold the baby at least once, he was a premie baby, only weighed 1lb 7oz, but he had gained 3oz and was doing good.

Baby's cheeks had filled in he looked so beautiful.

How do I get through this?  I keep asking God why did he take him from us??

Sorry, sad

Posted 3/23/2009 7:09 PM (GMT 0)

NanciLee said...
I am so so sad for the pain you and your family are going through right now. I can't begin to understand. Just know that many people will be thinking of you and praying for your strenght to carry on.


Nancy

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Posted 3/23/2009 7:16 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so very, very sorry for your loss and that you didn't get to hold him. I'm sending my thoughts and prayers. ((((hugs)))) Love, Butterflake

Posted 3/23/2009 7:42 PM (GMT 0)
Hi,

As someone who recently lost a child that never took one breathe outside of my womb, I understand your pain. To not even get to hear your child cry before you have to bury them is something I'll never get over, but I am learning to deal with on a daily basis. I held my son just once, and he was deceased already.

The only tips I can offer you are as follows:
- GOD is GOD
-GOD knew something that you didn't
- The spirit of your grandbaby will return to you someday
and finally, the one that comforts me the most, You know have a personal angel.

I hope that this is helpful and just know, God is GOD.
Posted 3/23/2009 8:54 PM (GMT 0)
I can't begin to express how sorry I am for your loss. I have never experienced anything that would begin to compare. I will be praying for you and your family. Judy
Posted 3/23/2009 10:16 PM (GMT 0)
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family - there is nothing to say to lessen the heartache but I am thinking of you all.
Posted 3/23/2009 10:27 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry for your loss! Please know that you and your family have lots of prayers going your way...as twinkiet said, God knows something you didnt and you will unite one day together!!!!
Posted 3/24/2009 1:00 AM (GMT 0)

So Sorry for your loss, and the heavy heartache you and your family are having to carry right now.  Sending prayers for your peace and comfort.

Lucy

Posted 3/24/2009 2:36 AM (GMT 0)
OH NO! ((((((((( Syl )))))))))))))) . . . prayers, hugs and blessings for you as you make you way through this difficult time. I'm so terribly sad for you. Friends of my son and d-i-l lost their 14 month old girl this week too. Just so sad. I pray that you feel His grace day by day to help you and your family make your way through this loss. Blessings,
Posted 3/24/2009 2:40 AM (GMT 0)
i am so sorry for your loss, syl . . . my prayers are with you
Posted 3/24/2009 2:08 PM (GMT 0)
Oh Syl.... I"m so sorry.  My prayers are also with you. He's with his Creator now, and that is the most peaceful, loving place he can be. It's so difficult to understand why God lets these things happen. There is a purpose, and someday we'll know why. Just be confident in knowing that this little child is in a place of love.  Keep that close to your heart.

 

Blessings my friend,

Ginny

Posted 3/24/2009 4:10 PM (GMT 0)
Sunshine,

Your loss is something most of us can't really grasp, but I do know that Owen Michael's soul wil always be in heaven, as is the soul of my little Christopher, whom I lost 23 years ago and never got to meet. Your pain will eventually subside, but his little soul will always be with you. God bless.

Pat
Posted 3/24/2009 5:54 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you all, for your support....you all are so kind.
I'm having a hard time talking to my hb about this. My daughter in law came yesterday, she decided she wanted to have the baby be part of her and she will have a part of him on a necklace, because she didn't get to hold him much and she feels baby will with her near and every day, rest in an urn. I hope this will help her more every day.
I'm worried this may put her into more depression.
I'm also sad because my son can't be here to console her too. My d-i-l cried here and wished he was here with her to make everything alright.

It's very comforting to know our loved ones souls are in heaven and we will meet them again, one special day.


Have a Blessed Day!!!

Sunshine
Posted 3/24/2009 6:20 PM (GMT 0)
((((((((( Syl )))))))))))) Her outward sadness is actually a 'good' thing. Grief is processed in stages and until all that sadness comes out it can't be dealt with effectively. Your hubby is processing his grief in another way right now . . . by holding it in or denying it. He's just not ready to share as openly as you and dear d-i-l are. One thing that is really hard for a guy is when we have a problem and they can't fix it or offer a solution. When they can't "fix it" . . . they tend to ignore it, deny it, or move on to something they can actually control. Just a guy thing. . . he's probably not being insensitive . . . guys just process things differently than we do. It may actually be helpful to say something like . . . "I could really use a big long hug" . . . it gives him a way to be helpful. I'm so glad you got to spend some time with d-i-l. You are both in my thoughts and prayers. Blessings!
Posted 3/24/2009 8:44 PM (GMT 0)
Let your d-i-l cry as much as she wants to. When i was going through it, about a week after my son died someone actually fixed there mouth to say to me that it was time for me to get over it and move on with my life. That made me more depressed and probably what caused this stupid MCTD flare up because I haven't been right since...
Posted 3/24/2009 9:15 PM (GMT 0)
Im so sorry, you and your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted 3/25/2009 12:22 AM (GMT 0)
I'm also sorry for your loss of your grandson. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
Debbie
Posted 3/26/2009 1:50 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Syl:

My deepest wishes to you. I'm so so sorry your grandson has passed away. I'll be praying for you and your daughter and her family. Know that he's in the Lords arms and is smiling down on you. Please take care and allow yourself to grieve and work through your loss.

Hugs,
Barbara
Posted 3/26/2009 5:12 AM (GMT 0)
My heart goes out to you and your family for your loss.

Bryan
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