Anxiety??

Hi! DQ,

I think I know just about what you mean. Your symptoms sound very much like mine, and I think you are already flaring. My nerves scream/my b/p spikes, my legs swell, I feel so anxious with my thoughts so chaotic I can't even cry cause I don't have any tears cause my eyes are dry/ misery it's hard to describe. My neuro said my symptoms are characteristic of pts. with cns lupus. So far I haven't had any seizure activity but that thought makes me panic too. I am glad you went to your primary, treating me for depression and anxiety was the first thing my gyn and pcp did for me, and thyroid. Remember, many antianxiety/antidepressive meds take awhile to kick in, so you may have to take them for abit. Its good to hear from you whenever  you post. Any stress in our life is a risk factor, too, I think. How about a wedding compromise..... balance between eloping/big wedding. Get your immediate family together at a restaurant for a team meeting, confess you are getting a tad stressed. See if you can simplify or muster the troops with assigned tasks. You don't need a fancy reception, go to Joanne's and have a bridesmaid get longstemmed somethings and a spool of beautiful ribbon and tie bows, check off flowers. Have another make a sheet cake or two and dump 20 pounds of conf. sugar icing on it.  Check off cakes. Ask Aunt Tilly to string bows on pews. Check off decorations.  Have an invite writing party and have fiance take charge of it while you take a nap. Check off paperwork! and don't hesitate to say if I do this/I can't do that, and remember it is the joy of the occasion with family that is important. Don't forget to ask for help as you near the day. Be specific and know that people who care about you understand some of what it means to live with lupus. If they don't, tell 'em. Looking back, (i have had the same husband for 37 years), I didn't need two albums of pictures. and family only wanted one group picture at their house. I didn't keep my bouquet 3 years before the dust and mites took it over and I threw it out. I kept one pressed dried flower with a favorite 3x5. My dress went to the voa. both dear daughters laughed at the idea of even trying it on and both regretted spending what they did on theirs. What we remembered was the food, buffet of beans/mac salad/roast beef/ huge rolls/ olive tray/cake, coffee and tea. And a local band at the grange hall. and the STRESS! And the fun. Try not to let yourself get depleted and exhausted. You need energy to have fun. Take care and I am truly happy for you,

suetoo