I went through years of the same thing that you are going through. Most of my teenage years were spent in tears and pain. Swollen joints, fatigue, hair loss, unexplained rashes, joint pain so severe that I could not walk some days. I had asthma and was on steroids quite a bit. My blood work was always abnormal but not by much. When I got married I miscarried 6 times. The doctors kept saying that it was because I was overweight. I am now 54 and this was many, many years ago. I went to so many doctors and finally just gave up because they all looked at me like I was crazy because they could not find much wrong. Finally I went to a rheumatologist, bless her, who diagnosed the lupus. She said that I had all of the classic symptoms and she was confused as to why I had to hurt for so many years. My last ANA was very low. She treats the symptoms and listens when I say that I hurt. Don't give up. Autoimmune disease runs in our family and yet I was never tested. I have been on different medications and some have been worse than the pain. Gastrointestinal problems, fluid around the heart, not being able to walk some days, etc. I still have some pretty bad days but I am on Methotrexate twice weekly, Plaquinil, Cymbalta, Imuran (sp) and Lortab 10/500. I have steroid injections and Toradol when I get to the point where my hips and legs dont want to move. I hope and pray that you will get better. My biggest loss was my babies. But they know so much more now than they did when I was young. It has become worse as I get older though. But with medication and some lifestyle changes it is bearable. Not everyone has the same manifestation with lupus and mine changes frequently. Sorry so long winded. I did not know this site was here and it seems to be a blessing to have someone to talk to that knows what I mean.