Prednisone caused BP problems for me after about
a year. I took (and still am taking) lisinopril and maxide and eventually got it under control. Pred affects vessels in some people and can cause much higher BP. Just stick with it and it will come down over time.
Can't help you with anxiety meds but you have to expect problems with lupus. I have lupus, polymyositis and scleroderma and was quadriplegic and could not swallow in 2005 after almost dying. Today, I have returned to a fairly normal life but I worry about nothing. Whatever comes up....I will deal with it. I have looked the monster in the eye and accepted that I have no control over it. But I will not let the disease dominate my life. Instead I will live it and deal with any problems that come up. Given the extreme nature of my lupus and PM I should have lots to worry about but I have come to live in the moment and enjoy each day as best as I can. As they say down under...no worries mate.
I know that it might sound cavalier but there are some things you can control and other things you cannot. You have to understand the difference and act on those things you can. Have you sought professional help to cope with your lupus? When I entered a rehab hospital in 2006 that was part of the therapy for all patients...it does help. Have you looked into any support groups in your area? It helps to talk to others who are going through the same things and understand exactly what you are experiencing. Check it out with www.lupus.org.
The last advice I can give you is that it is possible to live with lupus and have a good life. But you have to accept what has happened and realize that you might have a new normal in your life. Uncertainty is part of that new normal unfortunately. People ask me if I am afraid that my diseases could attack again and I tell them I don't even think about it. I am not in denial but I realize there is nothing I can do other than take care of myself, take any meds needed, and try the best I can to enjoy life even though not according to plan.
Hope you can find some peace in your life.
Bill