Sooo embarresing! Have to ask... "Bowel Incontinence" REALLY URGENT, NEED ADVICE PLEASE

I am only 36 years old and Bowel incontinence usually, typically only happens with elderly people.
This is sooo Bizar. Its not all the time. I think I went maybe 6 months without it happening.. THen it will keep happening for a week. Sometimes a little and sometimes allot. That is so embarresing I dont know what to do. Two nights ago I got up at about 4 in the morning and I didn't feel right and its so embarresing just to type this even tough I am not face to face with you all . When it does happy I dont have the urge to go or hold it. I just realize its leaked. Occasionaly I can hold it it a little, but for the most part I just simply dont know its going to happen.

I had a colonoscopy two weeks ago. He found nothing but just some internal hemoriods. He was not concerned. No cancer. But there HAS to be a reason for this. I am too young for this. I eat a ballanced meal. Do I go to a Doctor and talk more about this? I thought it would all get resolved with my colonoscopy doc. But he came to talk to me about my diet and to make sure I take fiber supliments every day. WOW do you know what a friggen mess I would be in if I was taking fiber supps. Maybe its not even lupus related. I am at a loss. Its not a daily thing as if I need a diaper like a baby... lol but its probobly the most embaressing thing that can happen to a person. Someone anyone... help..

Thanks
Steph

PLEASE and advise would greatly greatly greatly be appreciated. I am so embarresd to ask this but I dodnt know where else to go. I know I there has got to be a solution and a certain type of DR to see. Please help me!

I am not exactly sure what advice to give you, but I can offer my support. I too am about your age and have the same thing happen. The two times that it is most embarrassing is at night or if I am intimate (if you get my drift). I am becoming better at knowing if it is possible to happen. I typically feel some sort of (I can't describe it) feeling a couple hours before hand (or I may have had loose bowels that day). What I do if I suspect it at night is place a towel under me (and I am unclothed). I have thought about buying an adult um, diaper (?) but I am not yet 40. I just can't do that.

The dr I would see is a Gastroenterologist. You can find one that specializes in incontinence and autoimmune disorders (if there is one around you). Maybe someone else has a better idea?

Stephanie.. about using the fiber...
using the fiber will make it bulk up.. or firmer... that is what I was told... maybe you should try it and see if that would help you....

SoSt9 said...
I am not exactly sure what advice to give you, but I can offer my support. I too am about your age and have the same thing happen. The two times that it is most embarrassing is at night or if I am intimate (if you get my drift). I am becoming better at knowing if it is possible to happen. I typically feel some sort of (I can't describe it) feeling a couple hours before hand (or I may have had loose bowels that day). What I do if I suspect it at night is place a towel under me (and I am unclothed). I have thought about buying an adult um, diaper (?) but I am not yet 40. I just can't do that.

The dr I would see is a Gastroenterologist. You can find one that specializes in incontinence and autoimmune disorders (if there is one around you). Maybe someone else has a better idea?

Thank you EVERYONE for your reply. I dont feel so alone now...Thx and a big thanks to SoSt9.. I will look into a Gastro. I had no idea that there are Gastro's that specialize in auto immune disorder.. But again THANKYOU!!!!!!!

kookla34 said...

SoSt9 said...
I am not exactly sure what advice to give you, but I can offer my support. I too am about your age and have the same thing happen. The two times that it is most embarrassing is at night or if I am intimate (if you get my drift). I am becoming better at knowing if it is possible to happen. I typically feel some sort of (I can't describe it) feeling a couple hours before hand (or I may have had loose bowels that day). What I do if I suspect it at night is place a towel under me (and I am unclothed). I have thought about buying an adult um, diaper (?) but I am not yet 40. I just can't do that.

The dr I would see is a Gastroenterologist. You can find one that specializes in incontinence and autoimmune disorders (if there is one around you). Maybe someone else has a better idea?

Thank you EVERYONE for your reply. I dont feel so alone now...Thx and a big thanks to SoSt9.. I will look into a Gastro. I had no idea that there are Gastro's that specialize in auto immune disorder.. But again THANKYOU!!!!!!!

I hope that you do find help for it, and if you find out anything profound, please let me know. It is so embarrassing when it happens.

RE: Gastroenterologists - Honestly, I didn't realize that specialists would specialize within their fields. It makes sense, I just never thought about it until I saw one earlier this year. He is an Ophthalmologist who only deals with retina issues. My Neurologist deals with migraine/sleep, and my ENTs both cover different areas.Even within their own field, they will not cross over and treat me for something they do not specialize in. I don't know where you live, but if there is a teaching hospital near you, they probably have the best doctors for these things. Since the doctors teach within their fields, they have to keep up. It can be nice.

I do have a Gastro, but I usually only see her when my bariatric doctor thinks I have an ulcer (haven't had one yet). She specializes in the issues that surround bariatric surgery patients. Thankfully, I have not actually needed her for anything beyond a scope, although I should probably call her and deal with the issue of incontinence. I do not know how familiar she is with autoimmune disorders.