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Posted 6/29/2014 6:00 PM (GMT 0)
As you've seen in some of my previous post, I've been talking a lot about losing my hair. As I continue to take the MTX, it continues to get worse. (It was already thinning before I was started on this medicine). I know that it is something that a lot of you guy's are dealing with as well and I am wondering, should I or shouldn't I just shave my head.

It is a very hard decision for me to make and my boyfriend is allowing me to make the choice. He'll love me no matter what of course. And he tries to show me the best sides of both choices. However, as it continues to get worse .. its like complete areas are thinning or completely gone and I keep thinking, maybe it would look better if it was all just shaved, rather than watch as this chuck falls out or that side has more missing.

Before I make a decision, my boyfriend has asked me to ask for your guy's opinions, so that I am just not jumping into something without hearing all my options.

Please tell me what you guys think.. I'd really appreciate it. :)
Posted 6/29/2014 6:51 PM (GMT 0)
So hard to find a reply to this Sunset. There are so many people who deal with cancer who are bald that it is almost a "badge" now. "I have cancer, I am bald, I am okay with it". I know you dont have cancer - but you are losing your hair due to your illness. On the bright side, you wont get the "but you dont look sick" comments that we all get :-).

My opinion? Get rid of it. If needed, wear a wig. Your boyfriend sounds like a good guy. Hair doesnt make the woman - or the man for that matter. There are a lot of bald guys out there trying to look like they still have hair. Bad comb-over anyone?

When I was first diagnosed and put on high dose Cellcept I started losing my hair. I was upset about it (and I am a guy) but decided "it is what it is" and was going to let it happen. When my doc changed my meds the hairloss stopped and what I had lost in a month all grew back. I know it is much harder for a woman but if my wife was going through something that made her lose her hair, I would be totally fine with her being bald. She would still be beautiful.

Now - that being said - have you discussed a different medicine with your doctor? There are many options out there so not sure if you have tried everything and this is the only one working for you now so you are stuck with it.

One thing to mention - being bald if you have not completely lost all your hair is a lot of work. What about going very short? Or are you losing enough patches that this would not work?

Best of luck in your decision.

Cheers

/tall
Posted 6/29/2014 7:03 PM (GMT 0)
I have always been one to have a short hairstyle. As I noticed my hair falling out (in patches) I opted to go with a "buzz cut". I am female. That was about 4 years ago. It has grown in a bit since then but I still keep it quite short. Most people never comment, but for the ones that do, I respond that I prefer it this way. It is much easier to take care of. I think shaving my head completely would actually require more maintenance. Right now it is a "wash and go". I think you should go with whatever makes you feel better.
Posted 6/29/2014 7:36 PM (GMT 0)
My hair loss has not been very notice by others but me. It's just thinner, but if I was at the point you're at I would opt with the easiest thing for me.

Anyway I wear hats and scarves outdoors so it doesn't matter my haircut.
Posted 6/29/2014 11:40 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks guys. We have already started looking into wigs and hats. However, we want to get educated before we purchase any wigs, because we really don't know the differences between hair types, kinds, brands and so forth. If anyone does have any knowledge, I'm a blank canvas heh. Teach me!! :)

And yes Tall he's wonderful :). He allows me to see the brighter sides of things even when it seems there isn't. It's because he's gone thru a lot of what we are going thru as well with his diseases. He doesn't want me to thru any of it alone.

He knows it's going to be an emotional thing for me, so he doesn't want me rushing into a decision. However, he will support me whether I decide to shave it or not. The issue I'm having is that my hair has never been shorter than my shoulders and in fact before I started losing it a few years back, it was one of my best features. I used to let it grow down to my butt in fact. So it is definitely an emotional decision to make, but having your guy's advice and his support, I think I'm ready.

Thanks again :)
Posted 6/30/2014 2:04 PM (GMT 0)
Have you thought about taking it in stages? If you're afraid to go all the way, you could get a short cut which might make your hair appear thicker. If you like it, go a little shorter.

Once a year we participate in St Baldrick's, a fundraiser for pediatric cancer research and people of both sexes and all ages gather to get their heads shaved. They get people to make contributions in exchange for their getting their heads shaved. It's a heartwarming day. My husband has been getting his head shaved for years as have a couple of my girlfriends. I was going to this year until my son set his wedding day a couple of weeks after St Baldrick's and I didn't want to go to his wedding bald. Maybe I'll get up the nerve next spring!
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