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Posted 8/21/2007 5:35 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Barb,

 

Just a note to say that I hope your feeling better some. Will include you in my prayers if thats ok. Meanwhile know that your in my thoughts. Sending lotsa comforting thoughts n huggles your way (if thats ok).

 

hugs n rainbows,

-blu-

Posted 8/21/2007 9:00 AM (GMT 0)

Hi Barb, I hope you are sleeping by now. I have been having a rough night of not sleeping as well but I'm not really feeling to bad at this point. i'm glad you got to go over everything with your lawyer. I am sure so upset that they are putting you through so much to try to get your social security.

Oh and as far as feeling like a looser nono . One of the best things you can do for your child is to teach them to be independent. I taught my son how to cook, clean, do laundry, balance a checkbook, you name it he did it. I would have felt like a total looser if he hadn't learned how to do that stuff! No kid of mine was gonna get married so they had some woman to take care of them! tongue . To many kids today go out in the world and don't know the first thing about taking care of themselves. You have absolutely nothing to feel bad about.

love ya

carol

Posted 8/21/2007 1:11 PM (GMT 0)

okie said...

No kid of mine was gonna get married so they had some woman to take care of them! tongue

LOL Carol... I always say the exact same thing.

Barb,  You are definitely not a loser!!  Like Carol said, the best thing you can do is teach your child to be independent.  I grew up with my mother being sick a lot and I had to do much for myself but it didn't bother me one bit.  That was normal for us.  Kids nowadays don't have to lift a finger anymore and believe me they are going to be the ones suffering in the future.  You are doing a wonderful job with Nikita and its evident by the way she loves you.  Don't ever feel guilty... there is just no reason to.

Posted 8/21/2007 1:35 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Barb,

Oh sweetie, you beat yourself up when you should be doing your best to find some happiness in your life. Nikita was probably proud of herself for being able to fix dinner, and if she wasn't, I'll bet you told her you were proud of her for not being as helpless as her friends. And I'm sure you let her know all the time how much you appreciate her. You're a good mom Barb, and you're doing the best you can. You didn't chose to get cancer and taking care of yourself is your only weapon against the disease.

I hope the drive to see your attorney doesn't cause a setback and that you can get some sleep tonight. You're such a sweetheart and we all love you and support you.

I hope you can feel the great big hug I'm sending your way.

Love,

Pat
Posted 8/21/2007 3:38 PM (GMT 0)
Bless your heart, Barb. I can recognize the "mom guilt" a hundred miles away - I get it a lot too. I can't tell you how much I agree with the others though about teaching your kids to be independent versus helpless. I was more thinking how sad it was that Nikita's friends didn't know how to prepare meals and they are teenagers. Even with my mom guilt, I am making sure my kids know how to do things like basic cleaning around the house and they can make some food for themselves and will learn to do more as they get older. I can tell that they feel good about themselves for knowing how to do some of these things. I really hope the disability hearing goes okay. Any judge would be crazy not to approve you. Hopefully the whole process won't be too draining on you. You continue to be in my prayers. Take care of yourself. Love and hugs
Posted 8/21/2007 11:16 PM (GMT 0)
Oh Barb,
I have been away, swimming around in my own pool of misery, so I didnt know about your latest trip to the hospital.

My heart just squeezes inside my chest when I read your post about your daughter fixing dinner. My daughter has to do SO much around here. She is 16 and has had to take on so much "mom" responsibility. The guilt that I feel threatens to smother me at times, so I know how that feels. Our kids are better people than most though, they grow up with compassion and understanding that others just do not have.

I am praying for you girl, every prayer I pray has your name in it, it always does.

Love and Hugs,
Darlene
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