Bad Day

Artikat,

I'm so sorry you're having such a tough time. I know how overwhelming this whole disease can be. When I was in my worst flare, five years ago, I had a lot of nausea. The good news is that my lupus has calmed down and I'm like a new person compared to how I was 5 years ago. So don't give up hope! I'm feeling pretty rough right now so won't write much but know that I'm here for you any time you need to vent. I've given up expecting anyone to know how I feel, but I know that my lupie friends here on healing well do.

Hang in there,

Pat

Artikat, I'm sorry you are having trouble. If the dog is giving you trouble, I think its reasonable to make it an "outside" dog, if possible, or keep it caged when things ge t stressful or he has problems, or find him a new home. De-stressing your life is perfectly reasonable and a really smart thing to do. I have a small male dog that can have "accidents" at times and he goes in his cage if I can't keep an eye on him or if alot of chaos is going on. He likes his cage, there is a big piece of an old bedspread in there and sometimes we use towels, things we can wash. some times he cries a little and I just tell him to hush and he stops, he can seeus but isn't underfoot. Then, when I have time, I take him out. I also kept my dogs outside during the day and caged at night in the house until they were old enough to understand being trained. They got it pretty fast, but the boy dog still has issues at times if left to himself for long periods, he is stubborn.

Kids too! wow that is a handful. Maybe the kids can help with some things. I have been sick a long time, and learned to delegate, my son grew up helping me and we grew closer as a result. He learned to be a responsible adult as well from it. HE had been really spoiled, but I wanted him to be able to take care of himself.

I was a medical assistant when I was young, probably not a real compassionate one, I was very immature then. But there are many many different jobs you can do as a nurse andthere is such a need right now. My sister is an RN andworks for insurance companies out of her home and makes decent money. Alot of good nurses are being run out of the hospitals and in to the insurance business. But there are still lots of good nursing jobs in the hospitals, nursing homes, and doctor's offices. I worked in a blood bank for a while, shakey hands, no problem. I worked in a doctors office and shaky hands wouldn' have been a problem there either, prepping rooms, taking vitals and assisting the doc. Doing labs is another option. I would go ahead, it is likely your docs will find a way to get rid of the shaking. I don't know how nurses duties get split up in the hospital, but sometimes there are certain nurses who do IVs and some that do other stuff. I had two really go at me afew days ago, you probably would have been much better, shakey hands or not.

Hey Arti! Dropping by to see if you had a better day today!

Thanks guys...Donna...some days I actually think about it. Except on days like today when the dog walks up to the door and takes a big dump and pisses all over the place. They can both go!! I am just trying to take it one day at a time...don't really have a choice to take it any other way. I guess it is just the snow and cold weather that has me down...I look outside and feel the pain. I am also new to this diagnosis so I realize it will take time. We are going to a Christmas party tonight...weather permitting...without the kids so I am hoping I can enjoy myself and hopefully get out of this slum. I wish you all happy holidays and thank you again for your time and input.

I really wish I could wave a magic wand and make your husband like mine. I got really luck in that my husband understood what was wrong with me before the doctors did. My family on the other hand thinks I am just malingering. My mother might understand now since her car accident left her in worse shape than I am but I dunno she is so focused on herself that she doesn't talk to anyone anymore.