I wanted to relate something that happened today in treatment. My wife and another patient who is in her second week but who has suffered for over 20 years friended one another on Facebook. The other patient was looking at pictures on my wife's FB and saw how beautiful she looked at our wedding 10 years ago. When she commented, my wife said yes I was pretty once. The other woman said that she could tell my wife was pretty once. The woman showed my wife her picture taken in 2008. She was very pretty in that picture. Then, my wife said, "we were both pretty when we were persons".
"When we were persons." How many of you relate to that comment? My wife and her new friend feel somehow removed from a normal life. Is it from the pain and suffering? Is it from the not knowing what is causing the suffering; the not knowing what can cure the suffering; not knowing where to find help; not realizing that there are thousands suffering from the same symptoms? I have a dear friend who just learned he has a tumor on his pancreas but doesn't know if it is malignant or benign, or whether surgery is the answer. He said it is the not knowing that is the worst part. He'll get an answer soon, I hope it is good news.
My wife, once a fastidious dresser, no longer cares much about her appearance. She pulls her hair back because her hair hurts when it touches her face. She wears loose fitting clothes, t-shirts, sweat pants, etc. because she can't stand anything that is tight-fitting to touch her skin. She is no longer "a person" in that sense as well. She is not interested in dressing up to go out, she cares only to do what needs to be done with the least amount of discomfort. Get to the doctor's office and get home. Get to the drug store and get home. We love good food, good wine and a great restaurant. We have been out for dinner less than once a month for 15 months or so. It is too much of a struggle for her to dress for such an event even when she feels able to get out of bed.
She is a great "person" as is her friend, a gifted, award winning artist. We are now with 8 others trying to get well. Today, a patient gone for the past two weeks came back to tell us of her renewed energy and her walking in anticipation of hiking once again. Tomorrow, a young man who was described to us as a total mess when he arrived in December, is leaving and feeling "much, much better". He looks great.
We now believe there is hope for a cure, not just drugs for the symptoms. Tomorrow ends week five. We are hoping for good results by the end of week eight and, although we know it is just the beginning of our journey, we have seen real evidence that she might be cured, not just a patient in some pain management clinic.
JWHK