Why does my body shake like this?

When my mother has her rage and loses control almost because I buy a $50 fan for my room,or other instances when she *****es over stupid stuff in the house..my body starts shaking more..or trembling..why?

I was thinking panic attack also.


justme

it can be caused by different strong emotions (the adrenalin release is instinctive) - worst I ever experienced was when I went to an amusement park 2 years ago - I was already very ill, but I thought I could sit on a roller coaster a few times. I trembled the whole afternoon...
I'll never do that again. I was white as a sheet and was shaking like a leaf...

Whenever I'm really angry, I learned how to controll it a bit, by breathing in and out, profoundly, it calms you down immediatly. I meditate when I feel that my anger management is going downhill. Anger is so energy consuming, literally...
It's really hard to control though in the beginning...

I agree with Shabbychic. There is more to it though. Your body and brain/CNS is dysregulated and debilitated, and therefore is in a constant state of fight or flight to survive. When your mother flips out, it effects you emotionally. This panic attack takes your brain/neurological system beyond its ability to cope- thus the trembling. I think that this is a classic illustration of the interrelationship between the body and the mind.

I would imagine that this is an unpleasant experience for you. There are 3 main components to your situation: 1) body, 2) mind/brain, and 3) spirit. As far as the body is concerned, alleviation of the flight or flight situation will occur in a general correspondence to the degree of healing that your body experiences.

The contribution that the mind/brain adds to the problem can be alleviated by a proactive mindset that you immediately adopt to preempt the strong emotional response to your mother's outbursts. My opinion is that you need to thoroughly think through this situation to understand what is happening. If you understand what is happening, then you will realize that you are not a helpless victim to what is happening, but that you are in control of your emotions. You must train yourself to not be reactive, but to be proactive in your thinking.

I have only been speaking of the mind and body so far. Christians have a rock solid and transcendent point of reference on which their spirit rests. Many Christians have found this inner peace, despite the chaos of their mind and body, and they know what I am talking about. Wherever your transcendent point-of-reference is, I suggest that you find your peace there. Many people with this dreaded illness discover that they cannot find the resources to cope within themselves, but they find their resources outside of self. There are no clear cut formulas for coping with this disease and its symptoms. The things that I have said here are just my opinion and perspective.

Don

OMG kds...when my mom went through menopause... she tried to go off some hormonal meds she was taking to 'correct' the problem and both my sister and I had to sit her down and have a grown up chat about how she needed the medicine. Not that this is the case with your Mom of course. But whew! I didn't think I would need to have the Mom you need your medicine talk with her at just 16 yrs old!

Hey kds,

I would have a severe anxiety attack if anyone close to me acted like that!  I am going through post-menopause as well and when it first started I would break out into tears, get depressed, insomnia, etc.  When it was really bad I finally decided to see a holistic doctor who specialized in bio-identical hormone therapy because I thought I needed it.  Instead she put me on other supplements which really helped me (natural estrogen and progesterone).   She said I wasn't ready for the bio-identical hormones and I ended up never taking them.

Is your Mom taking any supplements for her menopause?  Diet is also important as well as exercise.

Hang in there, just remember it's not your fault... 

Denise

kds,

My opinion is that Christians can either be the best of people or the worst of people. There is nothing more distasteful than a "religious" person that is judgmental, hypocritical, and unloving in their lifestyle. I have seen your mother's deplorable situation many times in Christian homes. Its sad but true. That is one of the reasons why we are often called hypocrites.

It sounds like you are in a terrible environment for healing to occur. I don't think that it would be helpful for me to coax out any more private details of your life here on the forum, for the world to see. I notice that you do not have an available email address. Do you have an email account that you could email me? I would like to talk to you privately, maybe even on the phone if you would like. I would email my phone number to you if you provided me with an email address.

Don

P.S. Throughout the two months I stayed with my parents I shook all the time. I think that when you're really weak physically, and people continue to lay really heavy judgements and anger on you, it's like you just can't hold everything. I can't say what it is physically -- fight or flight adrenaline, etc... But my emotional understanding of it is that I was in a real kind of danger... Needed to "flee" to a better environment where my body could start to get better. I agree with Don, no adult is a victim and we are all responsible for our emotional responses... I hope very much that at some point I can have loving contact with my parents, where I am strong enough to meet whatever judgement and anger with love.. But until I become that awesome, I'm healing in an environment separate from them.

Inability to tolerate stress is a known symptom of TBD/Lyme. Suggest getting some Rescue Remedy and use it whenever this situation occurs again...it will help you recover more quickly from the triggering event...