Hi Knit Witted Bee and welcome!
I'm sorry you are going through such a difficult time not only with lyme but with your personal life as well.... I can so relate! I became totally well from using Dr. Jernigan's protocol from his book "Beating Lyme".. That was over 7 years ago..
I suggest that you read his book even if you don't follow his protocol because there is so much information in it. Another good book to read is Stephen Buhner's "Healing Lyme".. If you don't know where to buy these books let me know okay?
As far as quitting smoking, I would put that last on my list as you are dealing with so much right now that if you tried to take care of everything at the same time I think that would be way too overwhelming...
Hope this helps a little bit,
Denise