I'm so sorry that those around you don't understand better, Dora, but you have to take care of you - no one else will. So set your boundaries.
Have you watched any of the Lyme movies? Under Our Skin is a good one to watch with those that think Lyme is no big deal. You can find the full length movie on You Tube or on Hulu. There are websites that you can share with your family and friends as well:
www.lymespouse.org/www.tiredoflyme.com/so-you-have-a-friend-or-family-member-with-chronic-lyme-disease.html#.U3dTc3bbS1t Herxing refers to the Jarrisch-Herxheimer reaction. Basically it's when the toxins created by killing the bacteria can't be detoxed fast enough by the body and the body gets overwhelmed with them. This is why we suggest that detoxing methods will help - usually if we help the body to get rid of those toxins, we have a much easier time with the symptoms.
There are some that have gene mutations that make it hard to detox. It's known as the MTHFR gene, you can find a lot of information on the internet about
it now though. Many have the genetic testing done to know for sure, and there are treatments that work for many that correct that situation.