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Posted 9/1/2016 8:46 PM (GMT 0)
I've been in treatment for a year but I'm still pretty much homebound. My husband has an annual golf vacation for a week each year. He had to miss last year because of me so I really want him to go. He'll be gone early Wednesday to late Monday.

My son can come home late Friday afternoon til late Sunday afternoon. Since I've been sick for two years I have lost all of my friends (which I learned that they are really not friends) and I am not close at all to my family. So I really have no one to help me out if need be.

What do folks do when they are pretty sick and have to be alone for long periods of time?

Thanks much
Posted 9/1/2016 8:57 PM (GMT 0)
Others will be along to comment, but I would plan ahead for meals and such. Plan on things that you can throw in the microwave. Have everything you need handy. If you are like me you can't usually shop on your own so think about things you may need while he is gone and have it all on hand.

I can't always shower for fear of falling so I do sponge baths on those days. If that is the case for you that may be helpful.

I know that there are others who are alone. I am sure they will have some better ideas for you.

Could you have a visiting nurse stop by the days your son won't be there? I know that is not a feasible option for everyone, it wouldn't be for me, but just a thought.
Posted 9/1/2016 9:52 PM (GMT 0)
Laker,

I got sick this summer and was so weak I had to cancel all vacations. I made my husband and son go on one of them so my son could have a 'summer vacation' but I was petrified to be alone - even though I didn't tell them that. I'm lucky to be in Manhattan because we can have food/groceries delivered. It ended up being one of the most restful weeks. I didn't worry about what they would have for meals. I slept, I read and I talked to you guys. The worst part was the idea of being alone while feeling so vulnerable. Just make sure your house has food.

All that said, I am able to walk and get myself to the bathroom. I was also worried about showering alone but I just took very fast showers.
Posted 9/1/2016 10:42 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Huddie and Denikeef for your posts,
I didn't mention this in my first post, but I live in a very rural area, so what I'm most worried about is taking showers and detox baths. I have to take a detox bath at least every other day or I'm miserable. I also have to take an infared sauna every other day and that is up a flight of stairs. I get pretty shaky after them so I'm sometimes afraid I'll slip and fall. I haven't fallen yet, but have come close. I can have my phone with me but if I get hurt calling 911 is the last thing I want to do. We have volunteer first responders, many of who I would not want to see me naked (Like my closest neighbor, lol)

I guess feeling vulnerable is what I'm most afraid of.
Posted 9/1/2016 10:54 PM (GMT 0)
I totally understand not wanting to be alone.

I was like that for several months. I think you should maybe skip the baths on the days your son isn't there.
Maybe replace them with foot baths instead?

if you have baths Friday and Sunday, then you're only missing the Wednesday one, if your husband is leaving before you can have one. So, do a foot bath on Wednesday?

Same with the sauna - just do them on Friday and Sunday when your son is there.
Posted 9/1/2016 11:18 PM (GMT 0)
I wish i could star a uber for home health care ..ha ..maybe a ad for ex nurse that you could hire?..he needs his golf for sanity
Posted 9/1/2016 11:36 PM (GMT 0)
Before your husband leaves, I would make sure you have enough groceries, prescriptions filled, and any emergency items handy, such as flashlights.

And I would not take any detox baths while no one is there to assist if need be.

Tell your hubby to make sure that his phone is charged and with him at all times. Just in case you really need to reach him.
Posted 9/1/2016 11:38 PM (GMT 0)
Bluelyme, An Uber type health care would be great idea!

Laker, I think Girlie's suggestion of skipping the Wed. bath and the stairs is a great idea. Also when I said the worst part was feeling vulnerable - I meant the idea of it and worrying about the worst case scenario. When it actually happened I was fine. This is when having a dog comes in - they are the best healers and company. Please keep us posted. You can do it!
Posted 9/2/2016 2:47 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks everyone - I like the suggestions about taking a bath and sauna when my son is home and then a foot bath as needed. It makes a lot of sense. With my lyme brain it would have never occurred to me.

Since we live so far away from stores we are pretty stocked up on stuff, but I will ask him to make a couple of dinners that I can warm up and make sure all my supplements and scripts are there.

I do have a dog and cat who are my constant companions which I love.

I really want my husband to go, he certainly deserves a vacation. I feel a lot better about him leaving. Many blessings to everyone, I really appreciate it. I'll let you know how it goes.
Posted 9/2/2016 3:42 AM (GMT 0)
Oh good i pray all goes well...huddie i am full of many great ideas ...and bugs..i want my brain back so i can help humanity..you can have that one(count me in for 2% royality) stranger to drive you ok but to make food and help start a iv idk...if i taught them a bit ok
Posted 9/2/2016 4:32 PM (GMT 0)
If you or your son are still concerned on the days he's not there then setup a time for him to call you. That way he can check on you from a distance & cuts down the worry factor.
Posted 9/2/2016 4:50 PM (GMT 0)
Wonderful Update! My son just called and said he was coming home on Thursday and leaving on Monday. So I will just have one day alone. :)


Thank you all for your wonderful suggestions. I knew I could count on this group. I'm so happy my hubby can have some time away.
Posted 9/2/2016 4:52 PM (GMT 0)
Yay! That's great!
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