Advice please

Forgive me as only one part is Lyme related, the rest well, I guess the fall from Lyme. Its really hard for me to post this too. Its been very hurtful.

My teeth were never perfect. I actually had two eye teeth pulled because they caused sinus issues(hole in bottom of one sinus). Otherwise my teeth were very uniform and in good shape. When I got sick, my body couldnt absorb nutrients properly, and unfortunately this negatively effected my teeth. One of my front teeth developed a crack from drinking too hot fluid. The dentist said he couldnt save it due to the crack going too deep into the root. I didnt have money for an implant. Eventually, this tooth started to decay. As did others due to my inability to absorb nutrients. At the same time I started experiencing muscle atrophy.

Good news is, I am feeling somewhat better. I have my days. I am absorbing nutrients a lot better, though still not right. But the damage is done to my teeth. I still cannot afford implants. This has lead to me being very self conscious.

Im 46, single, and have met some very beautiful women I would like to pursue. But I keep pushing them away for fear when they know my situation will run like the wind. Recently, I have met someone I really like. I try to hide my teeth as much as possible, fearing the same fears as before. The thought of "who would want me?" fills my mind every second im around her.

Im a good man, somewhat rough around the edges, very tough, a mans man if you will. But this one subject breaks my heart. I see everyone so happy, and just once in my life id love to experience love like no other. And I cant be sure, but I think me and her are on the same page. But we didnt get far enough to where I can truly be me, and not hide my fears. Im afraid she will run, fast!

Im getting ready to get back in the gym. I am making more money than ever, though I dont have the money to fix my dental issues. Next year ill be able to afford dentures, which in itself scares me half to death. But what scares me even more, if I dont grab the moment now, she may not be there when I do fix the issue. And even if I did fix the issue(dentures) will it create new issues(embarrassment from the dentures?).

I feel like whatever I do I cant win. Im told im very handsome, a comment she has made also. And I keep getting the same from all women, whether her or not, they comment "I cannot believe you are still single!" . Because im afraid. And for some reason, I cant get over this.

I may not answer any replies right away. I have errands to do, work this evening, and I feel like I have a lot of reflecting to do. Please though, be gentle as im really beating myself up over this issue. She may not be "the one" but right now all the cards seem to be aligning. But its really tearing me up inside. My anxiety is shooting up just thinking about it. If anything, thanks for listening. I always appreciate your thoughts. Have a good day.

Lovely response from Pirouette!

You need to love yourself, so others can love you. What if the world was blind? How would we pick our friends then? We are so much more than physical.

Post Edited (PeteZa) : 7/26/2017 8:54:05 PM (GMT-6)

trader -

You don't think she's seen your teeth at this point? You can only hide them so much. It sounds like she is attracted to you - regardless of your teeth.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with dentures. My father had all his top teeth pulled out and dentures in when he was in his 30's. No one could tell.. He had a great smile...even though the teeth weren't 'his' - his whole face lit up when he smiled..his eyes smiled...

Don't push her away. It sounds like that's what you're doing.

Don't let Lyme take anything else away from you.

I don't know if this helps, but we're trying ionic teeth brushes home now.

No need to use tooth paste: the ions pull out dirt, color, pathogens, biofilms by attraction (negative attracts positive).

First time I used it, I spat yellow! My daughter, who is just 13, too. The smell was awful.

Then I started using on my gums. Some parts were totally black (or almost) due to dead roots long ago. I pulled these tooth off (infected roots) but the black blood remained stained inside gum. Just a few spots, but they looked awful, for more than a decade sometimes.

I am using the ionic tooth brush just for less than a month, and all my teeth got incredibly white. The gum is no longer with black spots, but only some stains remain.

I can barely believe. I'm still using it once a day, and will continue using it, because it cleans better than the electric brush (teeth feels cleaner after brushing, even if I brush shorter!).

But some people have sensitive gums and told they over react with intense pain when neg ions are sent there. I had no problem.

My ionic tooth brush cost me 15 dollars with 3 new heads. I can write the brand here, but I suppose, any brand would be fine (?).

Before that, due to lyme, all my teeth were dying, looking bad, weak, movable. One dentist told me ALL of them moved by slight finger touch.

I lost at least 2 teeth to lyme, deep infections from roots. Then after lyme, my mouth did not look good, but I was fed up with treatment. Only in the last 3 years, I started to look after my mouth again.

I bought a Violet Ray (for 25 dollars in ebay) and use it outside my mouth for the SPECIFIC purpose of reinforcing my teeth roots. I do think it stabilized the situation there, because I was losing one tooth every 2 years, surely, all of the dying from inside out. Since I started on the violet Ray, I did not lose any anymore.

They are not yet super strong, but I haven't given up yet! They do look much better than 3 years ago, already.

Teeth are not only an aesthetic problem. In my opinion, an unhealthy mouth is like a mirror of the whole body.

You gotta treat that. Dr. K says he knows the health state of a person by asking them to open their mouth and looking at their teeth!

So, girlfriend or no girlfriend, aesthetic problem or not, treat your mouth! You'll only gain with that.

My daughter is 13, and was having cavitities. This approach eliminated open cavities, that were black! There is no single black spot now after Violet RAy + ionic tooth brush.

She's also taking something to change the pH of the mouth, an energetic product called Healthy Mouth.

We've got to continue using these things for longer to be totally sure, but so far, it seems it's helping. Next visit to the dentist will tell more details! I'll let you know.

Jinna said...
I don't know if this helps, but we're trying ionic teeth brushes home now.

No need to use tooth paste: the ions pull out dirt, color, pathogens, biofilms by attraction (negative attracts positive).

First time I used it, I spat yellow! My daughter, who is just 13, too. The smell was awful.

Then I started using on my gums. Some parts were totally black (or almost) due to dead roots long ago. I pulled these tooth off (infected roots) but the black blood remained stained inside gum. Just a few spots, but they looked awful, for more than a decade sometimes.

I am using the ionic tooth brush just for less than a month, and all my teeth got incredibly white. The gum is no longer with black spots, but only some stains remain.

I can barely believe. I'm still using it once a day, and will continue using it, because it cleans better than the electric brush (teeth feels cleaner after brushing, even if I brush shorter!).

But some people have sensitive gums and told they over react with intense pain when neg ions are sent there. I had no problem.

My ionic tooth brush cost me 15 dollars with 3 new heads. I can write the brand here, but I suppose, any brand would be fine (?).

Before that, due to lyme, all my teeth were dying, looking bad, weak, movable. One dentist told me ALL of them moved by slight finger touch.

I lost at least 2 teeth to lyme, deep infections from roots. Then after lyme, my mouth did not look good, but I was fed up with treatment. Only in the last 3 years, I started to look after my mouth again.

I bought a Violet Ray (for 25 dollars in ebay) and use it outside my mouth for the SPECIFIC purpose of reinforcing my teeth roots. I do think it stabilized the situation there, because I was losing one tooth every 2 years, surely, all of the dying from inside out. Since I started on the violet Ray, I did not lose any anymore.

They are not yet super strong, but I haven't given up yet! They do look much better than 3 years ago, already.

Teeth are not only an aesthetic problem. In my opinion, an unhealthy mouth is like a mirror of the whole body.

You gotta treat that. Dr. K says he knows the health state of a person by asking them to open their mouth and looking at their teeth!

So, girlfriend or no girlfriend, aesthetic problem or not, treat your mouth! You'll only gain with that.

My daughter is 13, and was having cavitities. This approach eliminated open cavities, that were black! There is no single black spot now after Violet RAy + ionic tooth brush.

She's also taking something to change the pH of the mouth, an energetic product called Healthy Mouth.

We've got to continue using these things for longer to be totally sure, but so far, it seems it's helping. Next visit to the dentist will tell more details! I'll let you know.

Jinna - I thought you had all your dental issues treated by a Biological Dentist?