Hello Tootiredtobother. Welcome! I am so glad you reached out to us here...
I'd say there's two avenues:
1) you get tested via Igenex. Call them and order a test kit. Then you need to decide what tests to do.
Many people just get the Lyme WB Igm and IgG for $250 total. you need a Dr. to sign the lab req.
If you can't find an MD to do that...go to a ND. They might be more willing.
While waiting for the results...seek out a Lyme literate Dr. LLMD or LLND. You can go to the ILADS website for a LLMD in your area.
https://www.ilads.org/patient-care/provider-search/You can also start a new thread: "Looking for LLMD/LLND in ________" fill in the blank with your area (city/state)
...and you can email me - I do have some names of LL Docs that I can give you.
2) You can skip the testing and go straight to a LLMD/LLND.
Most Regular Docs - as you know are not educated enough to help...and will send you off on wild goose chases.
I encourage new members to read through the thread at the top of the page: "New to Lyme?..Start Here!"
Keep posting...asking questions....that's what we're here for.