Lyme is hard on the marriage...sigh

bluelyme said...
a man only feels self respect when he can provide for his family. and when they feel respect is compromised for any reason or isn't there then they withdraw their love. when women feel they arent being loved they usually withdraw their respect , then the cycle of craziness ensues. it can be a beautiful symbiotic human trait if both parties honor what drives them emotionally. that yall didnt go to bed angry is a miracle.

Bluelyme you nailed it right here.

Girlie just remembering from some of your past posts, it doesn’t sound like that is typical for your husband to use the cost of Lyme treatment against you so I would try to forgive and move on as best as you can. This Illness is incredibly stressful in many ways and puts a financial strain on most families as well. Usually your husband is very supportive and behind you with regards to treatment. Our marriage has been tested as well because I’ve thrown so many things at my daughters Lyme that we’ve been hit hard financially as well. Deep down I know some of my spending was misguided and out of desperation but I felt I needed to do anything to help our daughter. My husband loves our daughter too and wants her well but is more cautious about what therapies are most affordable and within budget. He’s the only working adult in the home so that has been a tough burden for him. At times he looked like the bad guy unable to provide more. I had to be careful not to vilify him for tightening my spending. It’s such a hard balance and I’m sorry you guys are growing through it. Hugs

So sorry you’re going through this. The expenses and different doctors and protocols can definitely be hard on a marriage. I have experienced it myself.

I am definitely praying for you!!

Appreciating my hubby now.
Holy herx !!!

Didn’t come on til later this evening. That dang Rifabutin - thought I got through it unscathed - last dose for this cycle this evening and a few hours later I’m herxing.

He went to bed and I told him I’d sleep in the spare room - as I doubt if I’m going to be sleeping quietly tonight.
He insisted I sleep in our room and to go ahead and have an Epsom salt bath if I desired. The tub I use is off the master - and it will definitely wake him up. He wants me in the same room for safety.

I’m quietly crying - I’m okay - crying relieves some of the tension.
Hoping I can go to sleep soon -maybe in the recliner I’m in now.

You’re right Upatnite - it’s not typical of him.

Thank you

Girlie, I'm so sorry to hear that. Keeping you in my thoughts. I hope it is just an aberration as it has always sounded like guys make a very strong "team." These diseases challenge us and test our relationships, that is for sure...