Off Topic ~ My other brother!

Hi all,

Most of you know that I lost my baby brother to melanoma skin cancer over 5 months ago..  He was 49 and I'm still trying to handle losing him,  I have good days and bad days.. 

Anyway my older brother and myself have never been close and 2 weeks ago he had open heart surgery (he needed 2 valves replaced) plus he is diabetic.  I felt bad for him as he hardly had any visitors and for the past 2 weeks I drove alone (on a crazy parkway - one of my phobia's) and visited him every single day..   I brought him home 2 days ago and he is going okay..  He is 60 years old and has alot of health problems... 

Funny, he was shocked that I came to visit him but darn, I lost one brother and I didn't want to lose my other brother...  So we became closer, something I thought would never happen.

So if I don't answer every e-mail (I'm doing my bestest), that's why..  I have a lot on my plate right now..

Denise

Thanks CG,

It's just a relief to know he's home..  A nurse told me the night of his surgery that it was close and a very serious operation.

Anyway, he is staying with my mother who is a wreck and I keep telling her to take deep breathes!  LOL!

I'm helping my mother take care of my brother.. yeah, it's a real family affair!  

Denise

I am sorry that you lost you younger brother too. I hope your family can grow and stay closer together. I am sure this is what your younger brother would want if he is watching over you. But remember to take care of yourself first. If your older brother has any serious character flaws that is the reason for your detachment from him, he will probably be the same person after he is well. But if you just didn't have much in common, same tastes etc, then you may find new ground to walk on with him.

Hey CG!
Birds of feather do flock together, you know!! **giggle!!** Much of my brain function has already been flushed down the drain by those space aliens!!!

Hey Deejavu!
I am so very sorry about your loss, and the stresses of serious medical issues within your family. Although I DO have to say that I admire you for your strength & stamina!!

Also, I'm happy that a 'new' relationship with your older brother has been realized. I'm a firm believer that this life is about relationships!! (trying my best to stay off of the soap box!!!!!)

BUT - You MUST NOT forget to take extra good care of yourself!! Please!!

Sending many good vibes, healing thoughts & prayer to you & your family~
Trav

Deejavu said...


I am okay and have to learn how to say "no" to my mother.. she wants me to take her to this special store today that sells fish.. Hello, I need to work and clean my house, do laundry and have alone time for myself..



To be honest, I am a loner.. family or no family... I think I do the things I do because I feel it's the right thing to do.. I'm the type of person who feels guilty if I don't do the right thing..

But I still want to move to Vermont! LOL!

Denise

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I understand what you mean about saying no - I still struggle with this. Hubby was disabled last Dec & is still recovering. He does a lot of stuff for me & I have trouble with not trying to cook (really cook - not something out of a box!! ) at least one decent meal for him!

Whenever we are at a family gathering (doesn't matter which side of the family), I have to keep 'disappearing' for a while. At that point I end up getting a lot of questions - ones I'm just plain tired of answering most days.

I am one of those people that must do the 'right' thing as well - no matter what other think! I have come to the realization that I have to be able to live with myself!! Unfortunately, there are a lot of times when others don't believe that I am doing the right thing! I am kind of a realist, and like to have things 'out in the open', or like I say - on the table for discussion.

But, why Vermont??? It gets really cold there!!!