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Posted 4/23/2012 1:03 PM (GMT 0)
Hi all,

I believe that the mind, body, and spirit are all connected and that if one does not address all three, then it may interfere with getting well...

I understand that lyme disease is very scary for many, for me I was relieved!  Why?  I knew what I was dealing with after 5 years of going from doctor to doctor and I wanted a "label" for my symptoms.   I remember being so desperate that I think I would have taken cancer back then...  

First comes "acceptance"..  Once you can accept that you are ill you can start focusing on your illness and how to get better.   Denial is common in any disease yet that's an obstacle.

Next, look at your surroundings and the people around you.  Are they toxic?  Do you have overbearing parents who won't let you grow up and want to keep you under their wraps all the time?

My ex-husband was toxic and negative so I asked him to move out.  Sounds so simple but it wasn't... It was sheer h*ll...   But once he left, I felt a ton of bricks lift off of me... 

Later on, I moved away from my state (it became too crowded, I was too close to my mom (another toxic person), and moved to a rural area where I am now and love!  Again, much easier said then done...  And I'm 55!   By doing these things I opened the door to meet new people and even though I didn't want to get romantically involved again, I did!  So it's never too late... 

Okay, that's enough for now..

Good luck to all,

Denise

Posted 4/23/2012 1:15 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for sharing this Denise. I am a strong believer also that our emotional is connected to our physical and so on. I've been on quite the healing journey starting about 1.5 years ago and if it weren't for addressing my emotional ties I would not be here now.

There is one question that I cant seem to shrug off lately...Why cant we simply wake up tomorrow and be healthy? Why exactly is this not possible? I seem to believe that anything is and I have definitely been proven that theory is correct in my life so I am a bit stuck on this idea.

Good for you for taking your life into your own hands. How empowering!
Posted 4/23/2012 1:48 PM (GMT 0)
Hi KaliDhi,

Thanks for your kind words...   And good for you for addressing the emotional aspects! You know the saying, healthy mind, healthy body...

Why can't we wake up tomorrow and be healthy?  I wish it was so simple..  I don't have a simple answer as it would take me pages to answer you.  Anyway, for me it was looking at the Big Picture!  I knew I had bacteria (I still may as I believe everyone has lyme spirochetes but they don't cause any problems, why?  Perhaps watching Dr. Rau's lecture may explain this to you)...

http://www.marioninstitute.org/biological-medicine-network/resources/videos/dr-thomas-rau-lyme-disease-talk

I didn't go after killing bacteria, I went after ridding my body of toxins because after the bacteria die off (which they do without any medicine), they leave all sorts of toxins.  As most older members know, I am really big on detoxing. 

Hence, by detoxing (baths, dry skin brushing, foot baths, coffee enema's, sauna, exercise, etc.) and using supplements that work for me (such as Green Vibrance, Vit. C., etc.) that in turn keeps my immune system strong.  This takes work and some people would just rather swallow a pill because it's easier (I'm not talking about anyone here).   I believe if one puts in the work then their body can and will kill off bacteria on it's own.

Then I look at today's lifestyle and foods..  Our air is polluted, the foods we eat are processed and full of chemicals (not the foods my grandparents ate at all!), so I ask myself what is there to eat that is healthy?  Even though some foods claim to be organic, are they really?  I still struggle with food even today..

Of course we already addressed the stress issue but I must say it again, stress by itself is a killer..   I really suggest going to a counselor (a good one) just to learn how to deal with stress and diminish it...  I think people forgot how to relax (yes, I know these are not the best of times which affects us all)...

Don't know if that answers your question.. But it's a start!  LOL!

Denise

Posted 4/23/2012 2:19 PM (GMT 0)
what an EXCELLENT thread!

Totally agree, once I started to clean up the "debris" from my emotional self, my healing progressed much quicker

I actually just did a Lyme Conference last week. The doc who gave the conference was saying that stress, depression and other negative emotions actually BLOCK the emunctories (the methods of detoxing) and then toxins have a tougher time being released and /or cannot be released.
Every noticed how people with illness all have a very common base in that at the time they got sick, their lives were laced with stress?
Especially in an illness like Lyme where this disease totally takes over the body and toxins are in abundance.

There is no "cure" for illness, but only ways to train the body to heal. If our "terrain" is clean and we can open up detox pathways, we can change a persons physiology. Once you change that physiology, then the goal in healing is and should be not to cure the disease but to cure the person so the body can cure the disease.

Love this topic and I often work with clients and myself spiritually and emotional to release the baggage.

I hope this thread gets a lot more feedback

Will keep checking in

Thanks Denise
Posted 4/23/2012 9:43 PM (GMT 0)
I'm wondering how you chose a town to move to and did you know anyone there?

I was born and raised in the city and have been feelling that I want to move to a smaller town. I have wonderful friends and a dear sister here who I would miss, but feel that my neighbor problems and just the busy life in the city is hindering my getting well.

I've thought of doing this, but it just sounds so scary. I'm older than you and single. Thinking maybe this is just a wish to escape, but might just be going to a new set of problems.

I admire you for having done that!!!
Posted 4/23/2012 10:09 PM (GMT 0)
Love this Denise!! Thank you so much for posting. . . .

I believe this. I also believe that our thoughts are sooooo powerful. I believe you have to dig your heels in and DECIDE that you are going to do EVERYTHING you can do in your power, to get well.

BUT, I am just the mom. And my 17 yo has a horrible time with this. I feel sometimes like I fight her so much on just doing the little "free" things, like drink WATER!! Not eat sugar. . . I am tired of fighting the small things, but I feel like they are so important. I do not know how you can get another person to GET THIS!!! Esp a teenager!! She can be sooo negative sometimes, and though, I think she certainly has a right to be, it is not going to help her get well!!

ANY SUGGESTIONS?!!!!
Posted 4/23/2012 11:23 PM (GMT 0)
Emotions are tough - especially when you're a teenager. I've been a teen with lyme - not easy! It might help to remember that sometimes the negativity really is a symptom. I've fought hard against believing this for a while because I'm a psychology girl at heart and always want to explain emotions without getting neurotrasmitters and hormones and whatnot involved in the discussion, but sometimes it really is beyond our control, our ability to be positive.

My personal philosophy is fake it til you make it, unless the faking it makes you feel more negative than you did to begin with, and then just accept it until it changes, instead.
Posted 4/23/2012 11:29 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Peacesoul for your great words!  They mean so much to me...

Korissa, yes, my best friend of over 30 years lives where I moved to...  She even found my apartment for me.  We worked together when I was 17 years old and became best of friends..  After a horrible marriage, she moved back here to the mountains where she was born and met her 2nd husband who she is still married to today and now has grandchildren.

She kept after me to move here so I finally did (I also had problems keeping up the mortgage payments on my house) so I needed to eliminate that stress as well...  Little did I know that I would make new friends (especially in such a rural place in the mountains) but I did..  I'm helping some people here who have lyme..  So maybe there is a reason for everything...

Korissa, if you did decide to move somewhere else more peaceful, first visit the place or town and make sure you like it before you make any drastic moves.  I visited my friend several times so I knew the area pretty well before making the final move.

Treehousemom, I don't know what to say about Caity.  Is it possible she's angry at being sick and losing the life she once had?   If she's angry then I think it would be natural for her to become rebellious (darn, at 17, I was really rebellious!)..  If my Mom said white, I would say black.   I always did the opposite of what my mom said..  Talk about being a rebel, that was me! 

I don't know what it's like to be a Mother since I never had children (would have liked to with my first husband but I never became pregnant)...  So I had dogs and cats instead.

The only suggestion I have is to find a really, really great counselor for Caity so she can let out her emotions and feelings..  I have been in therapy in the past and I really loved it!  But it depends on the therapist..  There are so many terrible ones out there..   I remember years ago there was a huge stigma attached to seeing a therapist but who cares what other people think?   If it helps, great! 

Wish I had more suggestions for you but I am drawing blanks..

Denise

Posted 4/23/2012 11:52 PM (GMT 0)
Hi treehousemom,

I walked away from my computer and was thinking of your situation...  I thought to myself..  These are the words that entered my mind (ut oh!):

What if you were bedridden with some type of illness and were divorced and only had Caity to help you out and no one else?   I guess what I am getting to is that you should have a serious talk with Caity and turn the tables around...

Ask Caity how she would handle your illness?  What advice would she have for you?  Would she take off from school or work to help you out?   Her answers might surprise you..

Denise

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