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Posted 1/11/2013 11:18 PM (GMT 0)
Hi,

At the moment I'm having a huge problem organising my treatment, it's like I'm looking at all the things I need to do like an ant standing on the foothills of a mountain chain...

I can't get a daily routine on track, I've been trying for a few months now, but it's not working.

I've got a fulltime job (I'm outdoors for work 10,5 hours/day - free in weekends), need to do the household, the cooking. I fail doing this: meditation that makes me feel much calmer, doing excercices to make my muscles/joints more mobile, my hobby. I don't get to take my supplements on a regular basis, I don't have time to do more detoxing. Friends are depending on me and calling me if they feel bad. I'm working on some psychological/spiritual issues that appeared at this same moment.

I bought an agenda thinking that it would be easier to note down all the medicines/supplements I'm taking  - I do it for 2 days, then it's over again.

It's like my life is 1 huge mountain of chaotic mixed pieces.

I tried for months, but I don't get there - I thought maybe someone could have some enlightening ideas??

 

Posted 1/11/2013 11:56 PM (GMT 0)
Please don't take this wrong, but here are my suggestions.
Get a huge wall calendar. I write everything on mine!

Tell your friends that you're sorry, but you must take care of yourself right now, or you won't be able to be there for them later either. (this is actually quite important for your health and healing!)

Use the foot soaks to sneak in an extra detoxing session - use it when you sit down to eat, have computer time, or while watching a program on tv.

But pill organizers - they have all different types and sizes now. Get ones that you can just grab and take with you also.

The meditation and exercises are a lot harder, is it possible that you could get up just a smidgen earlier to fit those in - even if it's a shorter version of what you are used to?

I'm sure others will be along shortly to give you some more suggestions, but there's a start! What do you think?
Posted 1/12/2013 1:06 AM (GMT 0)
I found all the supplementation/medicine organizing a total nightmare as well! I'm not on abx anymore and currently am only on 1 herb and a couple of supplements--thank God! It's so much less stressful. I agree with Traveler, the pill boxes can be very helpful. I used a big one just a couple of weeks ago when I had to travel and it was split into AM/PM for every day of the week. That was very helpful.

As for the dependent friend issues--you HAVE to put a stop to it. It's hard, for you as well as them, especially if you're like me and want to help people all the time, but I had to just stop. I've even missed wakes ,etc. because I JUST COULD NOT DO ANYMORE THAN I WAS DOING! I suffer for it when I go over board, and in the end, my children and husband suffer for it. It has to end somewhere. It's been one of the hardest adjustments I've had to face is listening to my body and ignoring my mind! Which is usually saying, "Ugh, what will they think of me if I don't do such and such??? I'm going to miss out on this or that!!" But in the end, when I can function the next day because I listened, it's worth it. It's a blip in the road and it's only temporary, but you have to heal while you have the chance.
Posted 1/12/2013 3:21 AM (GMT 0)
Wow, Marie! That is a lot on your plate! How in the world do you do that?!?!?

It's time to take care of yourself. The best thing you can do is learn to say no. I've had to and, honestly, I've lost "friends" because of it, but if someone only wants you around because of what you can do for them then they aren't a good friend.

For my meds., I typed up a daily list and I check the meds. off as I take them. My cognitive function is so bad, that's the only way that I don't end up taking double or skipping doses. I even managed to mess it up w/ a pill organizer, lol.

Organization really helps-I got a hanging magazine organizer and hung it on the inside of a closet door next to a dry erase calendar and board. I labeled the mag. organizer pockets w/: To do this week, To do, To be Filed, to review, etc. I put EVERYTHING on the calendar and on the other dry erase board, I write my to do list, reminders,etc. The dry erase board is also magnetic, so I can hang my grocery list and other things that I need to keep together. All of this has really helped me a lot. Before I did this, I was losing my to do lists and was a mess. I was missing appts., my son's activities, etc.
Posted 1/12/2013 5:06 PM (GMT 0)
Traveler,

I won't take anything wrong, don't even think of that - lol

I got into town when I got up, bought a whiteboard and a familyplanner kind of calendar. I had a look at an online shop and found a pill organizer (7 separate boxes with each 4 subdivisions - that sounds practical), I couldn't find an enema set over here (even the pharmacist wouldn't search it for me), but I stumbled on one at that same website smilewinkgrin

Meditation will maybe find it's place once the rest is more organized...

Mysterie,

mind over matter (or 'the physical'/'the possible' in this case) - cry

I already put my meds on the new calendar for the upcoming week, I'll check them off each day

I forget everything, I loose everything, all the notes I make, documents I need, keys, what I was going to do or say mad . My handbag looks like a dustbin. I fill up bags with the things I need during the day, they become more and more filled, then I loose them - it feels like an ancient Greek torment.

And about the friends depending on me, I need to put my foot down. When my phone rings I sometimes start to cry, just because I don't have the energy for all of this... and they just let it ring and ring. Some go to other friends asking them why I'm not that available anymore or to ask them if there's something wrong (***? they know what's going on). These are the 'friends' I explained my case, but they ignore it. I told my husband today I'll just drop all of them, it'll be their loss. I'm getting angry about this whole so called friends business, that's bad (for them devil ).

A friend told me not that long ago, someone I really value a lot cause he's learning me so much: a conscious yes is a no. Very short, but so very true.

I'm sorry to sound so negative...

Post Edited (MarieLS) : 1/12/2013 4:41:15 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 1/12/2013 5:19 PM (GMT 0)
Sounds like you are on your way to an easier time keeping this going! I too used to loose all the notes that I had made! Sooo frustrating!!! So I began to carry a notebook - like the ones student use. Instead of making notes on small pieces of paper, I would write them down in this notebook. Each day I would start a new page, with the date written down at the top. It didn't matter how many pages each day took up, just that I kept track with the date at the top of the beginning page.

I never tore the pages out either, that way if I needed to know what had happened last Tuesday, I could just flip back to that date and look! Of course I was really, really cognitive impaired at that point. As I improved a touch, I went to the calendar where I still write lots of things down on! When our kids come up for a visit, they can flip through our calendar and see what doc's appt's we've had, when we started/stopped meds. liver cleanses, or whatever!! LOL! One flips through it, one doesn't want to worry herself by doing so (no problems as far as I'm concerned!) and the others just simply say it's TMI for them!!! LOL!!!

So adapt things to fit your needs - including your so-called friends right now. It's time to circle the wagons! Giggle!

Oh, I did want to ask if you could explain a bit what "a conscious yes in a no" means? I'm being a bit dense evidently today!! turn
Posted 1/12/2013 10:36 PM (GMT 0)
A conscious yes is a no: if you know what you want, and you say a complete conscious yes to that, you'll notice that saying no will go more smoothly, it'll come almost automatically. It is as if saying yes in a conscious way will eliminate the things you don't want to do.

(don't worry, I had to think profoundly to grasp it... lol - the brain sometimes won't follow what others teach me)

Post Edited (MarieLS) : 1/12/2013 4:44:12 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 1/12/2013 11:37 PM (GMT 0)
These are really great tips - thank you everyone!
Posted 1/13/2013 12:04 AM (GMT 0)
Welllll, I think I got it now!!! turn Giggle! Thanks Marie!!
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