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Posted 9/27/2013 3:30 AM (GMT 0)
We Broke up. He came here tonight and started moving out his things. Its my fault. I'm so devastated and I really hate being alone. If I didn't have lyme he would still be here I can almost guarantee that. , I've been crazy emotional lately. I,need to be treated for lyme with antibiotics and I'm afraid, because I'm working full time and note I'm alone I also have a six year old omg and I have the worst gastritis my stomach feels like a basketball was inserted in it. I feel like I'm doomed. Please tell, me antibiotics won't be too hard to.take. I go, next.Wednesday to my llnd for the prescription. I'm sending this from my phone please excuse grammar and spelling....
Posted 9/27/2013 4:16 AM (GMT 0)
All I see is you getting better once you get the proper treatment...Good Luck
Posted 9/27/2013 4:45 AM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry to hear this!
I completely understand, it is hurting my relationship too.
Keep your head up! You can handle this.
Anyone who survives this stuff can handle anything I'd say.
I will pray for you. I truely hope everything gets better.
Enjoy that little boy! :)
Posted 9/27/2013 6:41 AM (GMT 0)

I'm sorry that your relationship didn't make it mumma...

Please don't blame yourself. Blaming yourself will only make you feel worse. Obviously he can not handle this. Being in a relationship is not all about having fun (although that's what I would like it to be  :-) ). Some people just can not handle it when things don't go a 100%.

talk to your dr about your stomach problems, note everything down for your next week's appointment and ask away. He can give you something to treat the gastritis.

Also, try not to think too far into the future, go day by day. It's different for everyone: some people herx terribly (like me), others cope very well (like my sister).

Good luck and try to think that this is the beginning of your healing process.

MarieLS

Posted 9/27/2013 10:00 AM (GMT 0)
Us humans have an amazing ability to heal, adapt and overcome. As Marie said, just take it day by day, and everything will seem a lot more manageable.

Best of luck of with your treatment!
Posted 9/27/2013 10:18 AM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry. I hope you are feeling better soon.
Posted 9/27/2013 12:25 PM (GMT 0)
Im just going to throw it out there. 7 years ago i was constipated,bloated,sides were pinching,heart burn, fatuiged and weighted down. I researched and went in for a simple blood test for hpylori. Showd positive took prevpak and was fine the next 5 years. Just a suggestion is all
Posted 9/27/2013 5:14 PM (GMT 0)
mumma you are a very special person so maybe this person was not the right one for you. The antiobiotics will relieve your symptoms so you CAN function and be there for your 6 year old. Maybe you can turn to prayer if you are a believer. And we all go through difficult times but come up stronger. God bless you. And sending up some prayers for you and you baby.
Posted 9/27/2013 5:18 PM (GMT 0)
I started new abx yesterday and feeling SO MUCH better. Within a couple of days of being off the meds I was a total nervous wreck, couldnt think straight or remember anything. Im not exactly great or totally myself on the meds but can see def improvement. The sooner you start the tx the better off you will be. Takes a long time like months of years but you will be on the road...hugs.
Posted 9/27/2013 5:26 PM (GMT 0)
How is it your fault that you are ill? If he wasn't willing to be there for this, he wouldn't be there for any other thing where you needed someone to stand with you. As much as it hurts and is scary, you don't need dead weight on you right now and that's all someone like that would be.

You can heal - and much better without the added stress of a bad relationship. I was infected at the age of 7 and didn't get effective treatment until I was 47. Although I do deal with some permanent damage, I no longer have active symptoms - so if that's not too long to go without treatment, then you are fine.

Unfortunately, no one can tell you that it won't (or will) be too hard on you to take abx - but there are things that can be done to help ease the symptoms and there are alternative treatments that work very well also. You have plenty of options!!!

Take a deep breath and realize that even though you may be scared, your world isn't falling apart. Do you have a face-to-face support group that you can go to? Many times having someone that you can actually touch to tell your troubles to helps a lot. Hugs are good things to calm a person and let them know that things will work out.

And never forget you've got us!!!smilewinkgrin
Posted 9/27/2013 8:52 PM (GMT 0)
My heart goes out to you...but now it's time to heal. All I can tell you is during this time of illness I have learned peoples true colors. Some are wonderful and some aren't...and some don't know how to handle illness and back away. It hurts a lot and I would never discount how you feel. I'm glad you found us. Whenever you need to vent..cry...let it out. Crying is good for the spirit and is detoxing. Just let it out. I can't tell you how good I have felt after having a real good hard cry.

I've read many stories on here of divorce, break ups, etc...and those people are healed and are so dynamic now. There is one in particular and I hope she chimes in.

Also it is not your fault...it's easy to blame yourself but don't. Be gentle with yourself. Pray and meditate. If you ever need to chat off line email me. I've been through the ringer and I know that when I'm all better God will have one amazing, fantastic, super, dynamic, spiritual man for me!

And He will have the same for you...but for now it's time to heal without the added stress of trying to keep your relationship together. It's time to focus on you :-) Stay beautiful and hugs to you from the DC area.

Serena
Posted 10/2/2013 10:01 AM (GMT 0)
You all are my new best friends after reading all these so supportive messages. Thank you for your kindness and support. Its very calming and healing energy you all are giving me..... :) the kindness makes me teary eyed.... I'll be praying for all of us.
Posted 10/2/2013 3:06 PM (GMT 0)
I think I can safely say from all of us - you're better off now. Now you can concentrate on your healing!

Please be sure to let us know how you are doing!!!
Posted 10/4/2013 7:32 AM (GMT 0)
Mumma, I am praying for you. It's hard enough to deal with the physical problems Lyme causes let alone have to cope with relationships that leave you drained. My husband is a lot more sensitive now than before his Lyme symptoms surfaced so this turn of events might be even tougher for you to cope because of your illness. As Traveler noted, it is not your fault. You can't help being ill. It's an insidious disease that robs people of so much, but stay positive and look to the future. You can heal and you have your child to love and guide through growing up. You can do this.
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