Nasty to hubby - not fair!

Not only are we not doing fun stuff as a couple anymore...no week-ends away, no dinners out...partly because of my pain...but now also because of our lack of finanaces....but he also has to put up with my crankiness.

What's in it for him?

YOU!!!
This is not forever, you will get better.

We have the same thing going on at home.
Sometimes it's too much to just answer questions, even if they are very well meant.
I can't do anything either. I'm obliged to work because we wouldn't make it financially without my job. I work (desk job), can't do the household, can't attend social events (if I do, I pay for it big time). I feel husband is getting a bit frustrated that we can't do anything together, not frustrated towards me, but he is disappointed, just like me.
We got a citytrip from my dad for our 10yr wedding anniversary in December, still waiting to be able to go travelling. Now he won another city trip, but I just can't. I'm getting pretty frustrated too.

Your hubby is really interested in how you feel, he will understand that it's difficult for you.

Maybe you can do 'light' 'activities' with him, like having a nice diner together, you can even order in, or let him cook, just some quality time together.

thanks everyone!

It's not that I feel worse later or the next day....it's the pain during the activity.

I just have to be patient and wait for my test to come back.

Hubby just made a quick trip home on his lunch break to see me. I shouldn't doubt his devotion...we're joined at the hip.

you're right Mike. My husband has always felt like he needed to fix whatever is wrong. Sometimes he gets frustrated that he can't.
More than once he has said "If I could take your pain from you, I would"
And he means it.

I've always been a patient person....but this lyme crap is ridiculous!

Yes, I think once we get through the worst of Lyme, we will all be stronger and better people.