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Posted 10/12/2014 1:46 AM (GMT 0)
I know some of you have heard me talk about my ex bf a lot. That's bc we were still best friends, and I still loved him, though a true relationship w. intimacy was/is out of the question.

We talked on the phone during the week, and hung out together every weekend.

The last thing we talked about was my memory, which he thought had gotten bad.

Then he went to the beach. Usually he tells me stuff like that, but I had no clue what had happened or where he was, and was getting worried.

He came back, but I haven't seen him since. I called him last weekend, and asked what was going on, and he said, "nothing," and that nothing was wrong.

I haven't heard a peep since then. It's like he's evaporated into thin air.

I have to grieve the loss of yet another relationship/friendship.

What am I supposed to do, just hang out with my dogs?

Margaret
Posted 10/12/2014 2:14 AM (GMT 0)
Hey Margaret,

I just sent you an email about a different issue…

Anyway, I highly recommend you find a friend in your church! At least this works well for me. That way you can volunteer together as greeters or something, you can be in small groups together studying a helpful lesson together, you can help teach toddlers or something. It can be a fantastic community. And maybe you'll meet a guy whose company you can enjoy. :-)

Be gentle with yourself, dear. This healing process can try us to the very core. Take it slowly and find the things that make you smile.
Posted 10/12/2014 2:55 AM (GMT 0)
Honey,

I don't have a church. I guess I could join one; I don't know. Most of the nicer churches are in Boone, which is about a 35 to 40 min. drive from here. The churches here in W. Jeff., well .... I won't say anything.

Your church friends don't judge you?

Margaret
Posted 10/12/2014 12:26 PM (GMT 0)

teragram said...
I know some of you have heard me talk about my ex bf a lot. That's bc we were still best friends, and I still loved him, though a true relationship w. intimacy was/is out of the question.

We talked on the phone during the week, and hung out together every weekend.

The last thing we talked about was my memory, which he thought had gotten bad.

Then he went to the beach. Usually he tells me stuff like that, but I had no clue what had happened or where he was, and was getting worried.

He came back, but I haven't seen him since. I called him last weekend, and asked what was going on, and he said, "nothing," and that nothing was wrong.

I haven't heard a peep since then. It's like he's evaporated into thin air.

I have to grieve the loss of yet another relationship/friendship.

What am I supposed to do, just hang out with my dogs?

Margaret

I'm so sorry. This illness is bad enough but to make it worse many of us have lost friends and family too. cry I lost all my friends years ago and even family walked away.

I tell myself each day that I'm lucky that my husband has stuck by me, he is the only person who has stuck with me. I am also thankful for my 2 dogs who are a lot of company when my husband is working. Pets love you unconditionally, humans could learn a lot from them.

Sadly, if I do ever recover I won't be the same person. I don't mean to sound negative, it's just that you can't live with such loss and this extended illness without it changing you. I have also gained a lot. I have a much closer, much stronger relationship with God and my compassion level is extremely high.

I can't attend Church but I do watch things on TV and I read my Bible and I pray.

Each day when I wake up I thank God for another day and I try to count my blessings not my burdens.

I will keep you in my prayers and I hope things get better for you.

Post Edited (PrayingForAMiracle) : 10/12/2014 6:30:05 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 10/12/2014 12:41 PM (GMT 0)

teragram said...
Honey,

I don't have a church. I guess I could join one; I don't know. Most of the nicer churches are in Boone, which is about a 35 to 40 min. drive from here. The churches here in W. Jeff., well .... I won't say anything.

Your church friends don't judge you?

Margaret


I have some good friends in a good church in Boone if you ever did want to drive a ways.

My closer friends at church have been incredibly supportive during this time. They've brought me freezer meals (even my freaky diet), they've run errands for me when I've been too fatigued to drive, they've inquired and have shown compassion. Do they all understand? Nope. I am willing to navigate the strange comments for the several really good friends.

I wish you could have a community like this.
Posted 10/12/2014 4:22 PM (GMT 0)
Thinking of you, wish you were here - we could be friends :). I just turned 50 this week and find the dog park a wonderful place to vent and visit and hang with people who don't judge. I go every Sat. and Sun. and just breathe, away from the house or chores... although Sophie is a handful there sometimes. I hate to say, I need a break from my son Andrew - after 4 1/2 mos on the doxy/herbs, I thought he would be better... but as you have seen from my posts, he is not.

It's hard in a small town - you may have to take the drive.
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