Suffered a loss....how to deal?

My father passed away yesterday, and within an hour of hearing, my symptoms were ramped up - the worse they've been in months.
I thought it was based on the immune system? There must be more to it than that...as that's too quick to affect my immune system.

The worst part was having to call long distance to tell my son - and try to console him over the phone.
I'm a mess...today my body is twitching all over, and my nerve pain is sky high. Can't stop crying.

Will this put me back to square one?

I don't know what I'm going to do...it's all on my shoulders...planning the service, the finances, have to clean his room out at the care facility today. Thank goodness for my husband...who took the next few days off.

I don't know how I'm going to manage all this and not have a set-back.

Any advice?

Girlie,
I'm so, so sorry! There is not much people can say to make you feel better, no matter how hard they try. The loss of a first parent is hard, but the loss of a second suddenly makes your world seem very, very empty.

I have lost both my parents in less than two years and the loss of my mom was especially devastating because of her situation and because of my situation with lyme.

I was getting better until my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer and my health took a serious nosedive. I'm not sure how it brings down your system, it just Does. I have cried every day since her death this summer and its hard to crawl out of that hole.

Leverage your family as much as you can for help and support to get you through. I made it through so far and so can you.

I think we have to work extra hard to not channel those sad emotions and let it get the best of our lyme

My only salvation was that I had dragonflies land on me all summer, something that has never happened in my life. It makes me think that my mom was trying to tell me in some way that everything was ok. I'm sure your dad will let you know too.

I have no words of wisdom on how to get through this very difficult time.

I am so sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you and your family.

Oh my word, I'm so very, very sorry, Girlie!! If you need to email me to just talk and get things off your shoulders, know that I'm here.

Stress is what happened. Like what Maui said, stress suppresses the immune system. Extreme stress will hit it hard.

Yes, this will set you back - but not necessarily to square one! - but there's no way around it. You do have some control though. Be extra careful now to stick to your dosing routines, step up your detoxing (are you taking binders? Now would be a good time to add in something like that), and to rest as much as you can.

Be sure to 'de-stress' as much as you can by doing something quick and simple just for you - a warm bath, a quick walk, drawing, painting- what ever brings you a bit of peace and comfort. And make a conscience effort to stop and take a few deep cleansing breaths through out the day. A quiet corner of the room, a bathroom, where ever you need to go to get a minute by yourself.

And as Maui also said, and I've found this to be true in my own life as well - "You don't ever get over it, but you do get through it."

Hang in there, things will almost certainly get a little bumpy, but we are all here to help you get through as much as we can. Please post as you are up to it to let us know how you are doing.

and many, many ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) to you!!!

OMG...So sorry for your loss.
Just remember to concentrate on all the good things that happened in your dads life.
Do not focus on his passing, I am sure that is what he would want you to do.

Dealing with Lyme disease has made you a very strong person.
It may not be easy, but you will get through this.

With my deepest sympathy.

Dear Girlie,

I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your dad. My heart goes out to you. Please know I am thinking of you and praying this doesn't set you back too far. Hugs to you.

Girlie,
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, its not an easy thing to go through. My father passed away in April, I was his medical power of atty since my mom isn't competent to make decisions and had to help with all the planning of the service, thank God I didn't have to worry about the financial end.

It did set me back with the stress of knowing he was passing, we got word on a Friday and he passed a week later. I had my worst herx the day of his viewing and thought I wasn't going to be able to attend. Do as Traveler said, back down on your routine and up your detoxing. I stuck with my same routine and the stress wacked my body out but it didn't set me back to square one.

Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Thank you everyone for all your kind words and advice.

It's going to be a long haul...as I am executrix, so all the financial stuff falls in my lap.

My heart is aching...and my son's is too. It was so hard not to be with him to hug him (even tho he's 21...he needed a hug from his mom last night when I told him).

Okay - I won't worry about the set-back now...take one step at a time...this needs to be done...and there was a reason my Dad chose me to be his power of attorney and also the executrix, even tho I am the youngest in the family. I will honor his request...and make him proud.

I already lost my mom to cancer 20 years ago...she was young...and now both are gone. I can feel good that he will now be with her. As, he never fully recovered after she died.

It's funny - I was feeling down, and out of sorts...and I just wanted to come on here...even though we've never met in person...I feel like I have support, you are friends.

Oh no . . . . I am so, so sorry for your loss, and I'm so sorry that you are going thru this, on top of everything else that you are dealing with. I hope you can find strength and support through this forum, which is full of people who care and who understand and who are thinking of you and praying for you right now. Sending hugs and best wishes xx

Feelin' lots of love here...it's wonderful...thank you all so much!

I've taken some pressure off by setting the date for his service a week from this Saturday - so I don't have to rush...I made a list...it's all organized, and will plug away at everything...slowly....

On my list - waterproof mascara. If I can find some that doesn't irritate my eyes...that's why I gave it up...but gotta have it for the service.