my grandpa passed away..

He is finally at peace. No more suffering. No more struggling to breath. My poor grandma.. 67 years of marriage. I'm totally numb.

I'm so very sorry to hear this, IHL - but remember your own words most - no more struggling to breathe, and no more suffering. As hard as it is to accept and deal with the loss for those of us left here, it's better for those that were in that state.

Time. It won't make it go away, but it does lessen it's impact on us. Do what you can to comfort your Grandma - it'll help you to deal with it as well. Sometimes remembering some of the good times with family members help us to get past the hardest parts of this.

In my hubby's family, there is always a large gathering at someone's home after a funeral where the food abounds (and they are all superb cooks!!!) and being together remembering the good times that each person had with the one that has passed is incredibly helpful. I didn't think I would make it through the gathering when my FIL passed ( I was very close to him), but it actually helped.

So even if it's not an 'official' family gathering, get together with different family members (mainly grandma) and have a meal and remember some of the good times with Grandpa.

And give yourself time to grieve. We all grieve in our own personal way, but we all need to grieve.

Remember that this is stress to your body - and you may even experience a set back, but you can get through all of this - you have us to lean on!!

And, of course, I'm here any time if you wish to email me. You have my deepest sympathies, and my most heartfelt wishes for peace.

He was the first best friend I ever had. He kind of 'stole' me from my parents when I was younger. No one else in the world has taught me more about love and pain than that man. I feel like I could collapse. I didn't think it was going to stress me out so bad.

Wow.

I'm so sorry. Sending you a big hug. It is devastating to lose a loved one.

Xoxoxo

I am sorry for the loss you and your family are going through. It will take time, but you will smile every time you think of him. It sounds like you have so many good memories, I hope they warm your heart.

I am so sorry to hear this. I remember losing my grandparents. They were more influential in my life than any others.

I'm so sorry for your loss. You are very lucky to have had your grandparents into adulthood. My grandparents were all dead by the time I was nine and it was something that saddened me throughout my life. So consider yourself lucky and think of all the great times you had together. I'm sure he lived a good long life and that is truly a gift!!

Thank you all :) my family is amazing and we are just happy his suffering is over.