How much does a mother should push?

My daughter has lyme. She is 20. It started 3 years ago with a break for a year and relapse 9 months ago. She spends most of her time in bed. I have difficulties, many times about how to suport her.

Examples: she cant eat sugar or gluten. She feels nausea most of the time so she doesnt really want to eat and what she wants to eat is usually not very good for her. Every meal goes something like this:
I need to eat
What would you like
Nothing
But you have to eat something
But I dont want anything
I can make you, this or this or this...
Nothing.
Then I will gomand let me know.
10 minuts later she text me and tells me what she wants....

Another example: sometimes, a copuple of days at a time, she is mad. She doesnt want anybody to talk to her and when the brothers and sisters go to her room she kicks them out. Do I get upset with her? Domwe leave her alone?

Or, i go to wake her up in the morning and she says: leave me alone, I have no reason to get up

My question is: how much do I push her ? If she wants to be alone 2 days in a row, do I leave her? Do I ask her everytime the 10 differnt kinds of food I can make her? Do I just litterally get her out of bed?

She doesn't want to join any suport group and I dont know how to motivate her.
Thanks

Lymemama:

Is your daughter detoxing? My son is only 10 and he gets quite irritable and unapproachable at times. He does feel better since he started to detox. You must understand that your daughter feels terrible and that is why she acts this way. All you can do is love her and make sure she knows you are there to help her if she needs anything.

She is probably depressed because she feels ill and she doesn't think she will get better. A support group would help her and I would just keep suggesting it to her gently but not every day.

It is rough. I got it first and it is still hard seeing my son going through it. But knowing how he feels because I got it first, helps me better understand what he is going through. Please don't expect logic out of this disease. She can't even thing straight.

Find something, think hard, that she can do in bed to get her mind off of how she feels.

What treatment is she on? Is she seeing a llmd?

Thanks! I couldn't figure it out how to check if I had answers!!!
Yes, we have a lyme Dr and she is detoxing.

Most of her friends and in college and she complains that they dont understand. They had a reuninion around Crhistmas and they didn't even ask her how she was doing!!!! She cried so much.

I have told her about support groups but she doesnt want to join. She says she is tired of talking about it....

She had good days in january and this last week she has a lot of pain in her eyes, the light bothers her and she is dizzy all the time.