Am I being dramatic or is my family being unreasonable?

They don't want them to think that one of their children still lives at home at your age, that's the only logical conclusion I'm able to devise, which kind of sucks, as I really question whether or not it's for the sake of them not knowing that you're sick.

If it were, then I'd understand, as I doubt you'd want to have to have them fawning over you, questioning, and/or treating you like an "it," or something for being sick. I wouldn't. I don't talk about this stuff with a lot of my family members for that very reason, because they don't get it, or don't care.

I've tried, but it's all in vain. It's not worth it, at least not for me. Maybe if/when I get a bit healthier, I'll be able to put it in perspective, and give them all the spankings they deserve, but not today.

But, back to you, yeah, it's sounds like this is all for their sake, not yours, to save face, which is shallow. Again, I'd want to avoid the whole "she's sick" thing, if I were you. Yes, it's better, if people know and understand, so you don't get the misguided judgments, but it really is a huge headache, especially when we've got to be our own spokesmen, because our illnesses are so relatively unfounded, I guess, is the only word I've got right now.

The way I see it is that I'm too sick and stuck in the head to play teacher. I'm sure you feel something similar.

So, let's see, why is your dad mad at you? Is it because you're sick, in need of help, and not quite able to fend for yourself at the moment, because he's still got to play parent, being that you're an adult now? I mean, I can understand that last part, but it's not like you're some leech without ambition or something. I doubt you want to live there either. You have to.

Whatever it is that's driving him to be treating you this way, it's not right. I mean, I hope I'm wrong, but it doesn't sound like it. It sounds like he's being a very poor person.

I'd tell him to **** off, but that's just me. I would not recommend that, 'cause, obviously, it'd just worsen the situation.

Yeah, I don't know. The family + Lyme dynamic issues suck. They really do.

You could try to appeal to him, somehow. How? I don't know. Hopefully, some others will have some suggestions.

Me, if that didn't work, I'd just suck it up, oblige in order to keep a roof over my head, and keep trying to get better, so I could get the hell out of there ASAP.

edit: good luck, my friend. super big hugs, if you want 'um. I'm not the prettiest though, so I wouldn't mind, if you said no.

Wow, SO SORRY. I back out of everything caring for my son (17) and have for over 2 years now. He comes first no matter what. They should use the other two rooms and let you care for yourself as you need. My "children" are 22, 21, 17 and 14, and I feel bad I have not kind of "been there" for everyone in the immediate family as I am so obsessed with getting him well, but there is no way I'd even consider having lots of company and putting him out of a routine or wellness.

Maybe something else is going on in the whole family dynamics at your parent's level that you don't know about ? Pressure from other relatives, comments, who knows what would sort of push them to do this? Maybe you could ask nicely for a really good logical reason for the uprooting? Maybe explain to them how overwhelming and upsetting it is to you?

HUGS!

It sounds to me like the need for the big bed by the company is the reason. They want to offer up your big bed.

I might just switch beds in the bedroom, just to avoid this again.

Holidays and company make people go whacko. Not that I am lessening your emotional pain. Which, by the way, will cause your lyme to rev up. Parents can get a little overly anxious trying to plan for a huge get together. Even if it is just family. They are stressing and stressing people rarely keep it to themselves.

Sorry you are feeling this. Stress is the last thing you need. Deep yoga breaths and a peaceful place and you will come up with a good solution that you can rationally talk to your dad about. I think this will be what is best for you. Trying to buck the parents or being angry are both options that can make you sicker.

Hugs,
~Annette