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Posted 5/17/2017 8:57 PM (GMT 0)
My best friend's mother died today. Cancer. She was a great lady and she helped me a lot when I was a teenager. I'm sad mostly for my friend, but I've also had a lot of tragedy and death in my life the last decade. All my grandparents, my Dad, my step-grandfather, two cats, both my husband's parents, an aunt...and now this. I'm feeling slightly stoic about it, but I also feel like I'm probably not processing it just yet. I only heard a few hours ago. I am desperately trying to keep my stress down, but death always seems to blindside us and affect us in ways we can't imagine. I tried meditating, but my body feels tight and my hands are shaking.

Despite all the people that have died, I don't think I've ever gotten used to death. There is no right or wrong way to process it. I suppose it's just hard. I guess what I need are tips on how to make sure the stress doesn't hinder my Lyme recovery. Anyone have any words of wisdom?
Posted 5/17/2017 9:25 PM (GMT 0)
Hey there 10LymeB,
It is certainly difficult to lose people we care deeply for. We all experience it, and how we process our feelings and cope with each loss is very personal and unique to each of us.

I just want you to know that I share in your sadness at this time and as you work through your grief I will be thinking of you and praying for you and your best friend.

I would offer that maybe instead of holding back because of trying not to get stressed, just let yourself work through this as each moment comes.

That way it doesn't build up and possibly cause more stress.

You have feelings and memories of these people that have passed. That is a wonderful thing to go to , or remember when you feel down.

I also have faced many losses of important people in my life. I try to focus on what they taught me or what gift they brought into my life from knowing them. I try to turn my sad thoughts into joy or happiness for having known them and learned from them.

Yes, I miss them still, and I believe they would want me to be smiling when I think of them.

You take care, Sincerely, Jo
Posted 5/17/2017 9:30 PM (GMT 0)
Losing a friend or a loved one is very hard and brings out so many emotions, especially with the diseases we are dealing with right now. I am so sorry for you, your friend and the families. I really don't have many words of wisdom for you. We all process death differently. Do you have any type of calming formula? That might help to settle you down a bit. Maybe drink some calming teas. Talk to your supporters and try to get some rest. I am sure someone with more knowledge will be along shortly. Take care.

Patty
Posted 5/17/2017 10:33 PM (GMT 0)
Sincere Condolences...
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