Oh Geri! What an experience you have had! I could not imagine going in for one situation, not even considering the outcome being anything to do with your colon, and there you go! The majority of us do have the preconceived notion that our end result will be with surgery, so the idea of having an ileo is always there, but that doesn't mean it's ever easy going through with getting one!
My neighbor (no joke...she's literally right next door to me) had an ileo after emergency surgery because she was sick and no one knew why. She does have diverticulitis, but her doctor's really felt her issues have been caused by something else. Anyway, she too had a very difficult time with her bags and leakage. Though she's had the reconnect surgery she's still traumatized and I've suggested she join this site just for healing purposes.
I am so happy you've found this forum, as it has been a savior for me.