WORST DAY EVER- SOME ARE SO CRUEL

" Geez Liz, I could never be youe husband, the though of laying next to you in bed knowing that could be a possibility. Thats just disgusting. Its no wonder you are not pregnant, who would want to go anywhere near that bloody, leaky mess."

I about hit the floor, kept my tears in and walked away.....this is the same guy who said I bet you husbad will love when you lose the extra weight (before my Total colectomY) and if he says hes not excited, hes lying. I used to think he was just a smartass, but today, I felt the evil inside of him. I moved on for my pt's, but he came back in the afternoon. I decided to confront him ( I usally cower away) and told him he should be careful what he says to people he does not know what is going on, that this 4.5 months has been harder than anything for me and he really hurt my feelings.....his response

" I was jusy saying Liz, its your husband and he loves you, if it were anyone else or a stranger off the street. Believe me, they would not want to get in bed or close to you....its gross".

I told him to leave and went and took my patients IV out and ignored what was going on, inside I wanted to curl in a ball and cry. He asked me to "hug it out and he was just joking". I told him absolutely not, and to please leave. I have been crying all night.....if its not enough be be restricted by a malfunctioning ileo and undertermined future....to have someone point out your flaws or perceived thoughts infrom of all your co-workers has been so hard for mw to deal with today.

I love all of you, all you have gone through, and all we may endure. Ostomy or not, we are like family and I thank you for your support.

Lizzie

Thanks everyone foryour support.....

I cried last night, although not worth it, uncontrolled. It angers me the lack of empath in some people and especially people who have no idea whats its like to go through anything like we do each and everyday. The sad part is he is married....and has a child. I feel bad for her.....and him. I do not know what his underlying motives were, but I was supposedly an easy target. My husband was so hurt to see me hurt...I know he loves me and so does everyone in my life bag or not. I am the same person.....and most who do not know me would never know I have one unless I chose to tell them.

Thank you for all your kind words and support. You all mean so much to me and your words are so sincere.

Lizzie

Aw sweetie, I am so sorry and I am a nurse with a hubby who has Crohn's and believe me there is nothing about his disease that could stop me from loving him and holding him close.

This is harassment, harassment and throw in a good helping of hostile environment too.  Write that grievance and I hope you are a union hosptial so make sure your union rep is well aware of this incident. Be sure to write the facts and leave your personal feelings and comments out..........just state the facts in your complaint.

This person should not be in the medical business at all, he gives a bad name to the medical field.  What a horse's patut.   

I am so sorry there are jerks like this in the world and please know that we are here to support you and don't you dare believe a word this guy has to say.  Someone should make his day !

Lots of gentle Hugs to you,

Kitt 

So,

The pharmacist I currently work with found out what was said to me and an email was written in regards to the situation. He came over today in attempt to apologize to me. He was told as the clinical director or anyone in the medical field he had gone way to far and that actions could be taken if he were to stay here in this facility. My manager was here when he came to apologize and asked if was comfortable. I let him apologize, but gave him nothing more. He tried and tried to tell me he was joking, that I was a beautiful person, blah blah. The damage was already done. Thanks again for all your support. Maybe this will save someone from his wrath in the future. I gave my pharmacist a big hug and started crying. I thanked him for sticking up for me and supporting me. He wnted me to be sure if he was here that day it would have been taken care of sooner and that not one person here thinks that way of me. Love you all. ((HUGS))

Lizzie