Coping

Does anyone have a hard time coping with all thats happened to them? I'm not depressed or anything like that but I find myself thinking about my surgeries and at times I am just mystified that this has all happened to me...you know? Maybe I'm just weird...

Anyone else find themselves thinking? I thought about trying to write it all down or turning it into a book or something...we'll see how much patience I have.

Have a good night!

Holly

Hi Holly,

I feel exactly the same as you, I dont understand why I do either because for me it was an ileostomy or I wasnt going to live. I am currently seeing a psychologist to work through it amongst other things in my life that are getting me down. I was also thinking of getting my medical records and piecing it all together into a book to be able to help others that have been through lots of surgeries like I have. I see you have had a reversal. I wish I could have but since mine was crohns/ colitis my surgeon and GI both said it was too risky so mine is permanent. Also your last surgery wasnt that long ago and my last one being the proctocolectomy done on july 30 is not that long ago either, I think what we are going through is completely normal and we are definately not alone. Things are still early days for us and will get better Im sure. Take care and stay in touch

Hope u feel better real soon

This has been a VERY DIFFICULT year for you medically...hang in there, once you've gone a little further in your recovery, it won't weigh so much on your mind. A journal sounds like a great idea, too!

I used to wonder why I lived so long in pain, why didn't I do it sooner(I've had my ileo 10 years and it's been permanent for 1.5 years)? Now I just think "I wouldn't have been able to do that before my ileo"...our minds are amazing!

Wow! I feel so much better knowing that you are all out there and are going through or have gone through simliar experiences.

Thank you so much!
Holly

I feel the same way. Sometimes I feel like I've got an IV bag hanging off me. I know it saved my life, but I still have those "Why me?" days. I'm also job hunting, so add that stress and I do have some down days.

Holly - It's easy to fall into a semi-depression when I think about all of my health trials. From personal experience, I never expected that I would endure so many surgeries, recoveries, difficulties, and pain. However, I try to stay positive. I am alive! I have a loving and supportive family! I live in a country where I can have access to doctors and surgeons! My condition is not fatal! Ya da...Ya da....

No matter how bad I feel, I try to find a reason to smile and get on with my day. For me, it helps.