Worst leakage ever

If it makes you feel any better the same thing happened to my husband. (3-4 months after surgery) We had 2 other couples here. Hubby had made several trips to the bathroom and I knew from the look on his face things were out of whack. A leak began and he thought he could control and contain it until they left. I knew it was time to cut the evening short and fortunately it was getting near the time for them to leave anyway. I made an excuse that I was tired and had a very early morning next day so they took the hint. I saw them out and hubby stayed sitting at the table picking things up. He flew into the shower....it was a tough change that night as it kept pumping out stuff. As we looked back on the evening he had chinese food and junk food that night which was after other foods for lunch earlier and everything combined was too much for his system to handle. Sometimes I think he is eating too much and thinking it is gonna happen again. He drinks/sips a lot of water all day and that seems to be keeping things under control.

We went to a fair the other day and I knew it was going to be a 12+ hr day. I brought a large purse and had an extra pair of underwear and a full change for him just in case. Every couple of hours he would go to a men's room and make sure everything was ok.

We can do all we can to try to be prepared but knowing that your type of situation will happen at some point to all of you is upsetting but your close friends and family care very deeply about you so do try to not let it get you down. Those who care about you are more concerned and happy you are no longer in the pain and have had life saving surgery and I am sure feel bad knowing how you feel about the mishap.

I understand your feeling of self pity...it's a normal feeling and reaction to the situation. Tomorrow will be another day and a better one.

When we have special plans I am trying to get him to be a bit more proactive (I'm not sure if it even makes a difference) and change his schedule and do a full new change especially if it is close to a change day so as not to push it. When we travel I think I read about eating lighter the day before and the day of to keep the output down to a minimum and keep a leaking situation at bay. I don't know if there really is a rhyme or reason to all of this and I don't spend every moment thinking about it....just try here and there to think about what we are going to be doing and when.

Even though it has been 15 months and overall he is doing well I still sense some inhibitions and holding back on venturing onto different things and it probably has a bit to do with worrying about leaks. I think from the different accounts and stories people honestly share here with some of their mishaps we have to find a way to accept it. Get aggravated for awhile and then try to get over it so it doesn't put you in a funk as that is not good either.

{{{HUGS}}} and I hope things seem much better tomorrow.

I'll take your advice NascarRon and esoR!. I'm almost 12 years in and though I don't leak that often, I still do some times... I've gotten back into running and find it difficult to keep it on after sweating...

I've used the same appliance essentially since the beginning...
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Bridget

Thank you to everyone for your kind words. I was feeling very upset last night, but I certainly feel better about it today.

Somehow I managed to disguise the fact I'd leaked by saying I'd felt really sick and needed to sit by the toilet for a while. Only a couple of the friends I was with actually know about my situation, and I certainly wouldnt want them knowing about a leak to be honest.

Sorry for the confusion though - it wasn't a leak - it was a faulty bag. The adhesive on the Velcro flap had come away meaning that it was barely holding the drain able flaps together. I think I have a faulty batch of bags as I've noticed this on several of them.

Thanks B'Dereh. I can only hope one really realised, which I'm pretty sure they didn't. I had to wash my jeans in the sink and then dry them with a towel. It wasn't just a bit - it was A LOT! Hopefully I'll be able to laugh about this one day - not last night though, I must have been awake since 5am. It might sound a bit dramatic, but it felt like a real trauma at the time. Awful. Especially for it to happen when you know who was there.

Yeah 24 days and HOPEFULLY no more leaks/incidents like that!!

Are you excited yet?

And no, I am not excited, I cannot get my head around it and it doesn't seem real. It's like, I just have this appointment.

She was definitely worried about you and wanted to make sure you were ok. Get this: she cares.
And once in a while everyone will have to dissappear into the bathroom for 10 minutes, happens to everyone. Even her. Imagine that

I didn't realize from your first post with no signature line that you are very soon heading for your takedown...YAY for you!!!

This will be done and over with soon for you and you will have your wish to not deal with the bag any longer. I truly hope you have a good recovery and things fall into place for you in all respects...physically and personally with your gal.

For the time being you'll need to deal with this temporary inconvenience and hopefully have no other problems. And yes it will be less and less of an issue as each day passes, but it is so totally understandable how that messes up your emotions. Hopefully you will have a nice weekend. {{{Hugs}}}

Maybe for the time being carry a small binder clip or pouch clip just in case you need the extra reinforcement?? My husband uses the velcro type closures but always has a clip in his pocket for "just in case" situations.

Thank you. It was a Dansac convex bag, usually they're fine, but this batch seem really bad.